What is she trying to say? -only pros reply

[TheGambino]

Background: I made several posts about this HB8.5, 5-6 months ago. She is in a LTR for almost 4 years with a dude and I ran into her with mutual friends and we fvcked at my house during an after party.

We met randomly due mutual friend again downtown a month later and we ended up at my buddy's place and f8cked again. I had to talk to her and warm her up a lot and assure her that I wouldn't tell someone before she was dtf.

After that I asked her out 5 to 10 times in like 5 months time. She agreed once with a friend to come to a party but I was out of shape, a bit depressive at the time (couple of months ago) and she kind of let me down.

I forgot about her until today. I was like heck f8ck it, i'll shoot a text again. After a bit of back and forth I ask her out and she replies: ''I don't think that my bf would like the idea of me and you alone for drinks, sorry''

I replie with okay no problem... then she texts me, i want to call you tonight, I need your advice...

She calls me 14 hours later with this story:

Some small talk then that she got abused when she was a kid by her 2 year older nephew. That she has nightmares because of that and that she only has flashbacks of me and her having cex. (she wasn't drunk or anything though at the time) She asked me what happened between us;

told her that we cuddled, made out loads of time, that she opened up to me about the bad relationship between her and her father and that we had great cex..

She asks me if I told anyone about what happened between us and I assured her that I didn't tell anyone at all. I told her that I am a super descrete guy and that I wouldnt gain anything of telling someone.

She keeps saying: your so great, your amazing, I feel so much better after being so insecure and almost depressive about everyhing, I have such a great relationship with my bf and I felt so bad about what happened and now I feel so much better because of what you said, thank you so much.

I play the smartbf joker card with: ''I hope that your bf treats you like a princess, does everything for you, makes you feel cexy and a real women'' and she replies with yes yes yes...

She tells me that its not a good idea to ever meet up with the two of us because she doesn't want to feel guilty again towards her bf and they are thinking about living together.

I told her sure and agree with her, I tell her okay i wont contact or text you, she says ooh no it doesn't matter you can contact me once a time ...

I tell her I won't, it's better and she asks me about my relationships and I tell her don't worry about it I can choose, i got options and she chuckles like a little girl. We have some more small talk and close the talk with her being super thankful for the convo and telling me 100 times how great of a guy I am..

My views on this situation with HB8.5 super hot girl that I want to lay again obviousley: She might be lying about the abuse part and I think that she fears the fact that I could expose her cheating on her bf those days. Why? because she rejected my date offers a couple of times and she told me that she was afraid that I would be mad or disappointed about that...

What do you guys think of my answers? The whole situation? and my chances to lay her again in the future?

this is only for pro don juans, don't reply if you just started to change, only playboys answer

 

[stovepipe]

Asking if you think you'll bang a red flag throwing sloot cheating on her man again with 1800+ posts=You're a fake Gambino!

 

[marmel75]

I think she is getting what she wants out of it and you aren't so you are wasting your time.

 

[TheGambino]

Asking if you think you'll bang a red flag throwing sloot cheating on her man again with 1800+ posts=You're a fake Gambino!

Fxck off dude, I am the most passionate Don Juan around. I specifically asked for jokers like you not to replie. Idgaf i want good pvssy, IDC About her bf or that she cheats.. its all game for me

 

[Spaz]

I think she is getting what she wants out of it and you aren't so you are wasting your time.

^^I'll 2nd this.

Also, I'll think she'll call when she needs some good discreet fvck.

Either way u r wasting ur time as she knows by now she has u by the balls, u r being owned. Typical classic women move.

If I were you, I'd move along and if she contacts me for a fvck then I'm game otherwise I wouldn't give it a 2nd thought.

 

[Trump]

She tells me that its not a good idea to ever meet up with the two of us because she doesn't want to feel guilty again towards her bf and they are thinking about living together.

What do you guys think of my answers? The whole situation? and my chances to lay her again in the future?

Why are you messing around with a women who has a boyfriend?

Go after a single available unattached women.

 

[Poonani Maker]

I wouldn't contact her ever again. If you run into her, fine. Just keep being friendly and a "great guy." I think maybe the "great guy" thing is to keep you "not spreading anything about her and you." She's played the risk and women are terrible at risk so they show their cards in risk very well. You never see women playing poker for millions in Vegas.

 

[RangerMIke]

Chicks with BFs are fair game... I draw the line when they get engaged or move in together... too much drama and too much trouble. But you make your own rules.

My impression of what is going on with her.... I think she likes you are is willing to monkey branch, but doesn't think she can wrap you up. I think she is good for a hook-up now and then, but that is always going to be on her terms... which is always how it is with chicks like her. I had one like her a couple years ago... had a BF... same story. The only difference was she kept telling me I was 'such a player'... she would come around every few weeks. Then once, about a year and a half ago, she came over, spent the night, and that next morning threw down the challenge... commit or she'd done.

I told her what I always say in situations like that... and that was it. Over the next 6 months, she would 'touch base' test the waters, but nothing ever happened. Now I never hear from her... I see her around, here and there... most recently at an international trade event, everything very cordal, it's done.

The problem with women like these is the only way you are going to keep them around is to let her think she is in control.. the problem is that soon as she is in control, she will start losing interest in you, just like she has for her so called BF. My advice is to do like I did, just let it play out... when she is done with you... she'll move onto another dude.

 

[Chev.Chelios]

been there for years with my exs in the same pattern, girls love you.. she leaves wth a new bf (boyfag), comes back and strings you along.

these girls will beat the living emotional chit out of you until you learn..

they will beat, and beat, and beat, and beat some more until you fvcking learn..

any problem a girl has is HER FVCKING PROBLEM. HERS GODDAMN IT

(caps because I've been frustrated with this myself forever lol)

I've let girls problems and their victim mentalitys into my life hoping to be the good guy and care for them, while getting fvxked over time and time again.

any trauma, aching, crying a girl does is her fault and her responsibility to deal with, hers only and nobody fvcking else.

as far as being a dj, a HUGE personal boundary that must be excerised by default is the girls your seeing bring no negative **** and sloppy emotions around you at all, anytime you get a scent of "poor me, ive been so used and abused.." lay it out like ice cube and say btch, "I aint da one"

coming from a guy that has to deal with a bpd baby mama that's fvcking INSANE.

she played every trick in the book, because she has my child she thinks she entitled to every peice of help she can get, and blames me for being a bad evil man for not being a door mat, at first i thought it was my obligation to help her because of typical family beliefs shoved down my devirginized throat from society. and the more she shamed me the more inadquit I used to feel, utility I learned what I said up above.

it doesn't matter if your sister, mother, grandma, cousin, the most gorgous girl in the world you do not help people with their victim mentality emotions.

ps, read my thread where I ditched an ex one night when her car broke down and she came over and fvcked after months of friendzoned lawl..

the beauty of deeply engraining this mentality is you naturally get that awesome no BS aura alphas males have when you interact with people.. because they know they will never be able to sap emotions and time out of you, so the chitty people you want nothing to do with won stick around, and the good people will stay.

-chev

 

[soulforge]

It AMAZES me to see what INSANE lengths some people will go to, just to get some Vagina.

No sense of self respect or dignity at all.

So she has a boyfriend.. her interest level in Thegambino is next to NOTHING

She sounds like a girl with lots off ISSUES

She call's op and tells him in the most clearest fashion that she is NOT Interested!!

Yet op is making big ass threads about what he should do?

Here's what you should do op... Stop wasting your time.. Go find a chick who is not damaged like this one is, also a chick who is ACTUALLY interested in you.

Problem solved!