This girl is potentially having a birthday party and didn't invite me. Shes been trying to avoid the fact that its her birthday in a playful way. What the **** is up. Why do you guys think she would not invite me? Thanks. dont hold back guys
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
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Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
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exactlyAlle_Gory said:You're needy and insecure.
You need to be at this party and you're worried about what she thinks of you.
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Jackpot. She doesn't want you there dude. She's just trying to be nice about it rather than flat-out telling you not to go. When a girls nice with her rejection that's basically the kiss of death.CaptainJ said:To be brutally honest, she doesn't want you to come. The "playful hiding" of the fact is merely just trying to avoid you and stop you going.
If you had been flirting with the girl and she had been flirting back and she was interested in you, then that would be a totally different story. Then she would probably wait until the last moment to spring the invite upon you, just to tease you and see how you react to not being invited. But I doubt this is the case for you.
Just put it from your mind, don't ask if you can come either, you'll just look needy.
thisBlakeW5 said:Jackpot. She doesn't want you there dude. She's just trying to be nice about it rather than flat-out telling you not to go. When a girls nice with her rejection that's basically the kiss of death.
Trust me dude, don't try to understand how chicks think. I've made that mistake WAY to many times (even after I found this site and others), and went through too much emotional turmoil because of it. Oftentimes there is no rhyme or reason to why girls do the things they do.
Besides, you yourself admit it's going to be a crappy party. Let go. If it's going to be lame it isn't worth thinking about. For the most part "invitation-only" parties tend to suck in general.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
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To rub it in your face that she had all this fun and you weren't invited? Don't give her the satisfaction of a reaction.Conquer said:Turns out it wasn't even much of a party. Why did she call me and tell me all about her b-day weekend?