"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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What is she trying to do?

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This girl is potentially having a birthday party and didn't invite me. Shes been trying to avoid the fact that its her birthday in a playful way. What the **** is up. Why do you guys think she would not invite me? Thanks. dont hold back guys
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You're needy and insecure.

You need to be at this party and you're worried about what she thinks of you.
 

jeffthechef

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Alle_Gory said:
You're needy and insecure.

You need to be at this party and you're worried about what she thinks of you.
exactly

who gives a **** as to whether or not you got invited
maybe she doesn't know you well enough..maybe she doesn't like you..maybe your presence makes her nervous..maybe you're too ugly...maybe THERE IS NO PARTY

who cares as to why...if you really want to know..go and ask her...but then you'll just come off as needy and insecure ^^^...so basically annihilate this whole train of thought
 

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I think she is embarrassed of me seeing her some of her friends. Or possible jeleus of me talking to one of her chick friends. Ive seen the look on her face when i talk to her girlfriends. This isnt the kind of party you crash either. Its barely a ****ing party. I dont care what she thinks, im just trying to figure out what this means.
 

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STOP THINKING FFS

you ARE trying to figure out what she's thinking by trying to understand her actions....

IT DOESN'T MATTER....
all your thinking is simply a way to establish some confidence and reassurance

both of which you shouldn't need....becoming a dj means relinquishing the desire for reassurance and IOI's...and developing her interest through your own game
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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To be brutally honest, she doesn't want you to come. The "playful hiding" of the fact is merely just trying to avoid you and stop you going.

If you had been flirting with the girl and she had been flirting back and she was interested in you, then that would be a totally different story. Then she would probably wait until the last moment to spring the invite upon you, just to tease you and see how you react to not being invited. But I doubt this is the case for you.

Just put it from your mind, don't ask if you can come either, you'll just look needy.
 

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yea you are looking needy at this point. Just relax and forget about the whole situation. She probably will respect you for that and you will look less needy.
 

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CaptainJ said:
To be brutally honest, she doesn't want you to come. The "playful hiding" of the fact is merely just trying to avoid you and stop you going.

If you had been flirting with the girl and she had been flirting back and she was interested in you, then that would be a totally different story. Then she would probably wait until the last moment to spring the invite upon you, just to tease you and see how you react to not being invited. But I doubt this is the case for you.

Just put it from your mind, don't ask if you can come either, you'll just look needy.
Jackpot. She doesn't want you there dude. She's just trying to be nice about it rather than flat-out telling you not to go. When a girls nice with her rejection that's basically the kiss of death.

Trust me dude, don't try to understand how chicks think. I've made that mistake WAY to many times (even after I found this site and others), and went through too much emotional turmoil because of it. Oftentimes there is no rhyme or reason to why girls do the things they do.

Besides, you yourself admit it's going to be a crappy party. Let go. If it's going to be lame it isn't worth thinking about. For the most part "invitation-only" parties tend to suck in general.
 

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BlakeW5 said:
Jackpot. She doesn't want you there dude. She's just trying to be nice about it rather than flat-out telling you not to go. When a girls nice with her rejection that's basically the kiss of death.

Trust me dude, don't try to understand how chicks think. I've made that mistake WAY to many times (even after I found this site and others), and went through too much emotional turmoil because of it. Oftentimes there is no rhyme or reason to why girls do the things they do.

Besides, you yourself admit it's going to be a crappy party. Let go. If it's going to be lame it isn't worth thinking about. For the most part "invitation-only" parties tend to suck in general.
this
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Turns out it wasn't even much of a party. Why did she call me and tell me all about her b-day weekend?
 

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yeah who cares face rejection, same thing happened to me but she wouldn't tell me her last name (still tryna figure out why) i mean i know it and hung out with her heaps and **** and still wouldn't tell me but was playful about it. ITS MIXED ****ING MESSAGES!! i hate them lol but you gotta ignor them just ask her out thats what this website pretty much all about face rejection hu cares ya mates honestly dont dis ya that much lol and its only friendly lol
 

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Conquer said:
Turns out it wasn't even much of a party. Why did she call me and tell me all about her b-day weekend?
To rub it in your face that she had all this fun and you weren't invited? Don't give her the satisfaction of a reaction.
 
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