This girl is potentially having a birthday party and didn't invite me. Shes been trying to avoid the fact that its her birthday in a playful way. What the **** is up. Why do you guys think she would not invite me? Thanks. dont hold back guys
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
What is she trying to do?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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exactlyAlle_Gory said:
who gives a **** as to whether or not you got invited
maybe she doesn't know you well enough..maybe she doesn't like you..maybe your presence makes her nervous..maybe you're too ugly...maybe THERE IS NO PARTY
who cares as to why...if you really want to know..go and ask her...but then you'll just come off as needy and insecure ^^^...so basically annihilate this whole train of thought
I think she is embarrassed of me seeing her some of her friends. Or possible jeleus of me talking to one of her chick friends. Ive seen the look on her face when i talk to her girlfriends. This isnt the kind of party you crash either. Its barely a ****ing party. I dont care what she thinks, im just trying to figure out what this means.
jeffthechef
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STOP THINKING FFS
you ARE trying to figure out what she's thinking by trying to understand her actions....
IT DOESN'T MATTER....
all your thinking is simply a way to establish some confidence and reassurance
both of which you shouldn't need....becoming a dj means relinquishing the desire for reassurance and IOI's...and developing her interest through your own game
you ARE trying to figure out what she's thinking by trying to understand her actions....
IT DOESN'T MATTER....
all your thinking is simply a way to establish some confidence and reassurance
both of which you shouldn't need....becoming a dj means relinquishing the desire for reassurance and IOI's...and developing her interest through your own game
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
To be brutally honest, she doesn't want you to come. The "playful hiding" of the fact is merely just trying to avoid you and stop you going.
If you had been flirting with the girl and she had been flirting back and she was interested in you, then that would be a totally different story. Then she would probably wait until the last moment to spring the invite upon you, just to tease you and see how you react to not being invited. But I doubt this is the case for you.
Just put it from your mind, don't ask if you can come either, you'll just look needy.
If you had been flirting with the girl and she had been flirting back and she was interested in you, then that would be a totally different story. Then she would probably wait until the last moment to spring the invite upon you, just to tease you and see how you react to not being invited. But I doubt this is the case for you.
Just put it from your mind, don't ask if you can come either, you'll just look needy.
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yea you are looking needy at this point. Just relax and forget about the whole situation. She probably will respect you for that and you will look less needy.
Jackpot. She doesn't want you there dude. She's just trying to be nice about it rather than flat-out telling you not to go. When a girls nice with her rejection that's basically the kiss of death.CaptainJ said:
Trust me dude, don't try to understand how chicks think. I've made that mistake WAY to many times (even after I found this site and others), and went through too much emotional turmoil because of it. Oftentimes there is no rhyme or reason to why girls do the things they do.
Besides, you yourself admit it's going to be a crappy party. Let go. If it's going to be lame it isn't worth thinking about. For the most part "invitation-only" parties tend to suck in general.
Don Shinra
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She's just playing hard to get, be more aggressive.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Who cares, ask her out. 
Analyzeit
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yeah who cares face rejection, same thing happened to me but she wouldn't tell me her last name (still tryna figure out why) i mean i know it and hung out with her heaps and **** and still wouldn't tell me but was playful about it. ITS MIXED ****ING MESSAGES!! i hate them lol but you gotta ignor them just ask her out thats what this website pretty much all about face rejection hu cares ya mates honestly dont dis ya that much lol and its only friendly lol
TheBucketOfTruth
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To rub it in your face that she had all this fun and you weren't invited? Don't give her the satisfaction of a reaction.Conquer said: