What is she saying ?

[jafyk]

It's been a while since I've been on here. I've been busy and I've not really made any worthwhile connections since February. I met a girl during my graduation ceremony. We spoke briefly and I added her on facebook and she contacted me. The next time she was online we exchanged #s and that same night (her birthday) met up at the club . She told me she had no one to go out with her on her Bday so I told her to meet me at a club she was hesitant but we exchanged # and met up. We played air hockey, did a karaoke, danced, went to my place kissed, made out and did the deed. She left. I've been out of town and we've been in touch she texts me, or IMs via facebook and we communicate. Anyway, I asked her when I was gonna see her and she couldn't give me a fixed date she says she doesn't know she's got plans. She said that if we met up again there was not gonna be any sex that she feels things are moving too fast and that if I didn't like it I should do what I felt I should do. So, my question.... is she looking for an out and what is she saying to me? Thanks for your input.

 

[jafyk]

Come on guys I need answers that's why I wrote in. At the same time please only respond if you know what you are talking about.Thanks.

 

[Cinamon]

It looks like she just didnt want to spend her birthday alone and without action.
Us women have this problem when our hormones take over our senses, and sometimes it involves sleeping with guys you ordinarily wouldnt. I think upon reflection she is probably thinking she shouldnt have done it and has no intention of sleeping with you again.

Your young, there are plenty more women out there, you ill bounce back. If you play it cool enough she may even come running to you, but dont chase her... its not worth it.

 

[KontrollerX]

Cinamon gave you good advice.

Though you could just ignore her no sex ultimatum and meet up with her and make a move on her as the night progresses.

Use kino at the right moments after having a few hours of fun together and just about any woman forgets her no sex ultimatum if you've seduced her well enough.

Hey though if you fvck up and she shuts you down at her place or while you are out somewhere together and you both came via your own seperate vehicles make some excuse that you have to go to the bathroom and just get in your car and leave.

That will provide the assh0le factor that chicks just love as well all the drama they love to get themselves off over.

She will be blowing up your phone for a week.

Don't answer her calls and move on to the next one.

Hey they gotta learn their lesson some way right??

P.S: You could also just walk away and go home immediately if she shuts down your advances on her but then she might beg you to stay and if you're not strong enough emotionally like most of the weak pvssies on this site you'll let her manipulate you into staying and getting nothing.

Fvck that.

Either walk away from her and go home or do the slipping away trick which will piss her off more.

 

[Trendsetter]

Cinamon gave you good advice.

Though you could just ignore her no sex ultimatum and meet up with her and make a move on her as the night progresses.

Use kino at the right moments after having a few hours of fun together and just about any woman forgets her no sex ultimatum if you've seduced her well enough.

I hardly have been coming on here until just recently but I notice you always seem to give some money advice. I can tell you speak from experience. Keep giving good advice.

 

[jafyk]

Thanks Cinnamon and Kontrollerx. She told me that night when we did it that she doesn't normally move that fast, lol. I assured her it was ok and that I wouldn't judge her. Anyway, before getting off the chat with her last night I told her when I'd be back and that if she wants to see me she can make time otherwise I've got other things to occupy myself. Then she said that just because she said she wasn't available friday and saturday doesn't mean she can't do something on sunday or any other day. So, I told her about my ball game and she sounded interested. Anyway, I will heed your advice and not let her hold me hostage. At this point in my life I'd rather have a meaningful relationship with a woman that is not just all about sex (that tends to get old for me). I enjoy my conversations with her, we share similar views and she's quite a handy person (something I like in a woman). Anyway, I will keep you guys updated.

 

[Allurre]

Well, she seems like the type that wants to be held with high regards and value. Since you 'did the deed' on her bday night, she's feels guilty and cheap.

Your fix now is to express more respect towards her, try not to sleep with her until you've taken her out for several dates.

She needs to be reassured that you are genuinely into her, and not just after her piece of pie.

 

[Sandow]

Next!

 

[Bible_Belt]

She feels guilty about putting out on the first date. It's no big deal. Take her out again, pay for dinner...and then *don't* fvck her. She will love you forever, and you will screw like rabbits after every other date you ever have.

 

[jafyk]

Yeah, I wasn't planning on screwing her the next time so she wouldn't that that's all I want cos I want more.Thanks guys.

 

[imaginemypotential]

this thread has opened alot doors to me, I often experience one night stands then the hicks act crazy this makes alot sense all she wants wants she reassurance and maybe she was vulnerable at the time

 

[cola]

I hardly have been coming on here until just recently but I notice you always seem to give some money advice. I can tell you speak from experience. Keep giving good advice.

Meh he does ok

 

[jafyk]

I'm not really interested in increasing my numbers. So, I really hate doing it just once with a female. I prefer having a meaningful relationship of some sort, but then it's hard to resist skipping the sex the first time if it's been a while.

 

[Kevin Feng]

In working with Asian Playboy, of the significant things I've learned, is that women **** test you all the time.

Now, I'm not trying to be rude or say that women are subordinate by any means, but what I'll say is this, by nature, most women have very weak realities, if you play a dominant figure in her life, you'd be surprised how much you can dictate her in her life, hence, look at the way *******s control their girlfriends.

It's just in our genetics, men are designed to dominate women, physically and emotionally.

If I were in your position, and again, I'm not saying disregard her, but you've already done it once with her, the second time around should not be that difficult.

All you really need to do is get her in the seduction location again, caveman her and if she gives you some LMR, just use your standard protocol LMR tactics.

My guess is that she's holding the sex back so that she doesn't feel like a slut.

Don't over complicate this, just do what you've already done.

-Kevin

 

[jafyk]

Oh, boy lol. Maybe I've failed or maybe I haven't but are you boys right. It happened again whoops, lol.
Ok, she texted me asking if my offer to her to come spend the night was still on the table even if she didn't wanna have sex. I said yes. So, she comes we cuddle and watch a movie and I didn't make any moves on her. It was time to go to bed. I made the bed and as she lay in it I kissed her and told her I was gonna go play my ps2. I played for about 45mins and then came to bed with her we cuddled, I fell in an out of sleep anyway close to waking up this morning I started exploring her geography and she didn't try to stop me. We kiss and then I pulled her on top of me. Then I asked her 3 times if she wanted me inside of her she said yes. I asked are you sure and she said yes. So, I let her get on me and do most of the work. Afterwards she said she was going to the rest room and I ask her. Are you just gonna leave without saying goodbye. She said no. She went did her thing came back, kissed me again and hugged me. Then she left. She's supposed to be coming back to my soccer game this afternoon. The only thing I'm concerned about... don't know if it means anything. I put out a towel and tooth brush for her to use. I don't think she used any of it. Does this mean anything. I really didn't want to hav sex but how could I resist, lol. Anyway, I will keep you guys posted as things develop.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Don't worry about the bathroom stuff. She would not have used it unless you told her to.

Notice how words don't mean anything? You are doing very well. I think you did everything right. You both just had to pretend not to be all about sex for a short while. That was all it took.