What is Rapport?

[schttrj]

how do you actually build rapport with someone? when do you build that?

 

[schttrj]

comon guys, no reply?!

 

[Latinoman]

Rapport is a guy that sings music and looks like this.

 

[Mavrick]

Well, you have to have a genuine interest in what's important the other person. When you have a conversation with them, you talk about what's important to them. You interject your own views and opinions, but you don't dissuade them from their own. When you have a conversation you talk about them. People love to talk about themselves, and when you talk about them, they start to think you're a pretty smart fellar...

When you talk about yourself, people don't think you're so smart or interesting. More is less in this case. The less information you give about yourself makes you more interesting.

 

[Groovy]

My honest answer:

No one knows! If you only try the things you read in this forums, you won't ever discover anything new!

If you want, take "good" (Who defines good?) advice, but modify it, and make it your own idea. Or twist it, and do the opposite of what is "normal".

Just forget on "building rapport" and try something! But do it with your heart. What are you thinking in? What will make this fun? Do that. Is it crazy? Well, all good ideas sound crazy in the beggining.

There is no specific formula for this, as there is no formula on "How to compose good music...". How do you do it? Certinally, there are some principles, there are things that are bad and you shouldn't do, but you still aren't ment to write it following strict patterns! Do it by your ear! You'll learn as you play the instrument.

For the things we have to learn before we can do them, we learn by doing them!

The key aspects are: Have plesure in everything! It's not science for you. No, you have more fun if you don't analyse it to death!

You're just exchanging words. Stop thinking of it like it's something you don't know already.

It also has to be natural! Since the beggining.

And the focus in not on building rapport. It's not on talking about others, it's not on seeking approval: It's in fun. Fun is always the ultimate focus.

If you follow all the rules, you end up loosing all the fun.

So experiment!

 

[MrNotebook]

...building rapport takes time. Its not something forced, but comes naturally without both parties even trying. Its happens as a result of "clicking" with someone over time. It happens when someone sees you worthy of getting to know you better because you have proven yourself worthwhile (the same rule applies vice versa).

Good rapport happens when we look out for the other person's interest and that person sees that.

Just like the saying goes..."people don't care how much you know until they know how much you care."

 

[Mr. Me]

Basically, rapport is a comfort zone feeling that you are associating with someone who's just like you. It's feeling affinity with the other person.

So, rapport building techniques have to do with mirroring body language and establishing agreement and consensus, signaling you're both on the same page. There are books about establishing rapport you can read at the library.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Rapport = an UNCONSCIOUS feeling that the person you are with is just like your. The same way you'd feel with an old friend, or with some guy you bump into while dog sledding across the north pole that goes to your same school and belongs to sosuave. Or even what your dog feels when you suddenly come home unexpectedly.

How to GET rapport? lots of ways. some tricky, some sneaky, some easy (genuinely BE the other persons friend and CARE about them), some wierd and esoteric. If you google rapport PLUS NLP you'll get all kinds of good information.

general rule: No rapport = No sex

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Rapport is just mutual understanding that people share. It's nothing more than basic small talk or chit chat showing a mutual respect. Rapport doesn't necessarily equate to interest even though it could lead to an full conversation.

 

[schttrj]

hmmm, some really good replies over there and i think u all were meaning taht u need to vibe with them and be interested in understand them, its when u connect with that person.