"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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What is Rapport?

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Mavrick

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Well, you have to have a genuine interest in what's important the other person. When you have a conversation with them, you talk about what's important to them. You interject your own views and opinions, but you don't dissuade them from their own. When you have a conversation you talk about them. People love to talk about themselves, and when you talk about them, they start to think you're a pretty smart fellar...

When you talk about yourself, people don't think you're so smart or interesting. More is less in this case. The less information you give about yourself makes you more interesting.
 

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My honest answer:

No one knows! If you only try the things you read in this forums, you won't ever discover anything new!

If you want, take "good" (Who defines good?) advice, but modify it, and make it your own idea. Or twist it, and do the opposite of what is "normal".

Just forget on "building rapport" and try something! But do it with your heart. What are you thinking in? What will make this fun? Do that. Is it crazy? Well, all good ideas sound crazy in the beggining. :D

There is no specific formula for this, as there is no formula on "How to compose good music...". How do you do it? Certinally, there are some principles, there are things that are bad and you shouldn't do, but you still aren't ment to write it following strict patterns! Do it by your ear! You'll learn as you play the instrument.

For the things we have to learn before we can do them, we learn by doing them!

The key aspects are: Have plesure in everything! It's not science for you. No, you have more fun if you don't analyse it to death!

You're just exchanging words. Stop thinking of it like it's something you don't know already.

It also has to be natural! Since the beggining.

And the focus in not on building rapport. It's not on talking about others, it's not on seeking approval: It's in fun. Fun is always the ultimate focus.

If you follow all the rules, you end up loosing all the fun.

So experiment! :p
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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MrNotebook

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...building rapport takes time. Its not something forced, but comes naturally without both parties even trying. Its happens as a result of "clicking" with someone over time. It happens when someone sees you worthy of getting to know you better because you have proven yourself worthwhile (the same rule applies vice versa).

Good rapport happens when we look out for the other person's interest and that person sees that.

Just like the saying goes..."people don't care how much you know until they know how much you care."
 

Mr. Me

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Basically, rapport is a comfort zone feeling that you are associating with someone who's just like you. It's feeling affinity with the other person.

So, rapport building techniques have to do with mirroring body language and establishing agreement and consensus, signaling you're both on the same page. There are books about establishing rapport you can read at the library.
 

taiyuu_otoko

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Rapport = an UNCONSCIOUS feeling that the person you are with is just like your. The same way you'd feel with an old friend, or with some guy you bump into while dog sledding across the north pole that goes to your same school and belongs to sosuave. Or even what your dog feels when you suddenly come home unexpectedly.

How to GET rapport? lots of ways. some tricky, some sneaky, some easy (genuinely BE the other persons friend and CARE about them), some wierd and esoteric. If you google rapport PLUS NLP you'll get all kinds of good information.

general rule: No rapport = No sex
 

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Rapport is just mutual understanding that people share. It's nothing more than basic small talk or chit chat showing a mutual respect. Rapport doesn't necessarily equate to interest even though it could lead to an full conversation.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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