"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What is one easy way to really improve confidence quickly?

icantgetlaid

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If you had zero confidence (none whatsoever) how would you 'improve' your confidence?

walking up to random girls and starting conversation? getting ripped/fit .. etc. ?

All of these things are time consuming endeavors ... what i'd like to know is the #1 way you would go about improving your confidence as quickly and significantly as possible?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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As you think, you shall become.

It's about constantly getting out of your comfort zone and do things that would normally make you feel uncomfortable. You'll realize fear is something that clouds your judgement and prevents you from living the life you dream of.
 

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Take care of your appearence. Results are obviously important but just being the best you can be will help. When you start gym, even if there are no results you will feel better about your body. Groom yourself meticulously. Dress in a way that makes you feel proud of the clothes you're wearing. When you socialize with people, focus on making them feel good and you will find them reciprocating which will make you feel good about yourself.
 

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Achieve something; no matter how little, it has to mean something to you from a work project or a hobby that makes you god damn proud. Remember that story about two builders where 1 built on sand and another built on stone before a storm ripped through. Confidence is much the same. As much as you can fake it, real confidence is projected from someone who has achieved something and knows their worth.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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exactly as Leaf said, true confidence comes from knowing oneself and your own personal abilities and accomplishments. also facing fears and even death (in some circumstances) builds confidence. or in my case gives me an IDGAF im already on borrowed time attitude.
 

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You're going to think I'm nuts, but learn to juggle. Get used to starting something that you don't know how to do and learn to do it well, playing a musical instrument works as well.

Not a lot of people know how to do it and it's really not that difficult to learn.

Juggling is a great ice breaker at parties.
 

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The gist of what im getting is that there is no real 'low hanging fruit' opportunity as it relates to gaining confidence ...

Confidence seems like one of the most desirable/scarce qualities in a man (in the game of mating), and requires the most amount of work to achieve it.
 

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The easiest way to gain a little confidence is just say hello to people and look them in the eye. You see people everyday. It takes no extra effort.
 

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The easiest way to gain confidence is to find out the source of your lack of confidence. Do you lack confidence because you over-value the opinions of others and under-value your own? Do you lack confidence because you are emotionally frail? Do you lack confidence because you are not what you believe a man should be? Do you lack confidence because you elevate women to a high level and allow rejections from them to crush your ego? Are you desperate?

Figure out what the cause is. Then you can figure out how to fix it.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Eat right, work out, wear clothes that make you feel good, and make good money. Give as little fux as possible to petty things and you'll be on a good path b
 

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Puzzy will have the quickest boost if your not getting any. Preferably puzzy you dont pay for and doesnt having you do stupid crap behind it. An admirer.
 

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I like to joke around and have fun with everyone I meet, seems to be a good warm up for talking to 9's and 10's!!!
 

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1) New wardrobe.
EVERY single person in a room has self confidence issues. EVERY single person in the room is not as good as you are at something. The quickest way you can gain confidence is to stop comparing yourself to others. In that moment where you can control this, is the min you'll begin to accept and accentuate your positives and you'll feel 100 percent better and it is perpetual.
 

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If you had zero confidence (none whatsoever) how would you 'improve' your confidence?

walking up to random girls and starting conversation? getting ripped/fit .. etc. ?

All of these things are time consuming endeavors ... what i'd like to know is the #1 way you would go about improving your confidence as quickly and significantly as possible?
You can't improve confidence quickly. You have to go through hardship, effort, struggle, education, experience, negotiation, to get confidence. You have to interact with as many people and get in as many situations as possible so you can realize what people can do to do when times get tough, then you will gain some confidence. You also have to have direction and focus, a plan of some sort. A plan that you will never ever give up on, never quit.

So many guys are looking for a quick fix one type of solution to get what they want. It's never happens that way in the real world.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The acquisition ition
You can't improve confidence quickly. You have to go through hardship, effort, struggle, education, experience, negotiation, to get confidence. You have to interact with as many people and get in as many situations as possible so you can realize what people can do to do when times get tough, then you will gain some confidence. You also have to have direction and focus, a plan of some sort. A plan that you will never ever give up on, never quit.

So many guys are looking for a quick fix one type of solution to get what they want. It's never happens that way in the real world.
The acquisition of puzzy will boost his confidence over night. Confidence is made up of alot of factors. Its the result of success.
 

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i do get pvssy .. a lot of it .. but its low quality/average pvssy (chunky chicks, uneducated chicks, hoodrats, etc.) i'm trying to find a girlfriend (quality/bring around family/make you feel proud type) not just something to stick my d1ck into several times a week
 

parkthebus

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i do get pvssy .. a lot of it .. but its low quality/average pvssy (chunky chicks, uneducated chicks, hoodrats, etc.) i'm trying to find a girlfriend (quality/bring around family/make you feel proud type) not just something to stick my d1ck into several times a week
Where you from?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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