"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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What is one easy way to really improve confidence quickly?

icantgetlaid

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If you had zero confidence (none whatsoever) how would you 'improve' your confidence?

walking up to random girls and starting conversation? getting ripped/fit .. etc. ?

All of these things are time consuming endeavors ... what i'd like to know is the #1 way you would go about improving your confidence as quickly and significantly as possible?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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SeymourCake

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As you think, you shall become.

It's about constantly getting out of your comfort zone and do things that would normally make you feel uncomfortable. You'll realize fear is something that clouds your judgement and prevents you from living the life you dream of.
 

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Take care of your appearence. Results are obviously important but just being the best you can be will help. When you start gym, even if there are no results you will feel better about your body. Groom yourself meticulously. Dress in a way that makes you feel proud of the clothes you're wearing. When you socialize with people, focus on making them feel good and you will find them reciprocating which will make you feel good about yourself.
 

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Achieve something; no matter how little, it has to mean something to you from a work project or a hobby that makes you god damn proud. Remember that story about two builders where 1 built on sand and another built on stone before a storm ripped through. Confidence is much the same. As much as you can fake it, real confidence is projected from someone who has achieved something and knows their worth.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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exactly as Leaf said, true confidence comes from knowing oneself and your own personal abilities and accomplishments. also facing fears and even death (in some circumstances) builds confidence. or in my case gives me an IDGAF im already on borrowed time attitude.
 

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You're going to think I'm nuts, but learn to juggle. Get used to starting something that you don't know how to do and learn to do it well, playing a musical instrument works as well.

Not a lot of people know how to do it and it's really not that difficult to learn.

Juggling is a great ice breaker at parties.
 

icantgetlaid

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The gist of what im getting is that there is no real 'low hanging fruit' opportunity as it relates to gaining confidence ...

Confidence seems like one of the most desirable/scarce qualities in a man (in the game of mating), and requires the most amount of work to achieve it.
 

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The easiest way to gain a little confidence is just say hello to people and look them in the eye. You see people everyday. It takes no extra effort.
 

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The easiest way to gain confidence is to find out the source of your lack of confidence. Do you lack confidence because you over-value the opinions of others and under-value your own? Do you lack confidence because you are emotionally frail? Do you lack confidence because you are not what you believe a man should be? Do you lack confidence because you elevate women to a high level and allow rejections from them to crush your ego? Are you desperate?

Figure out what the cause is. Then you can figure out how to fix it.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Eat right, work out, wear clothes that make you feel good, and make good money. Give as little fux as possible to petty things and you'll be on a good path b
 

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Puzzy will have the quickest boost if your not getting any. Preferably puzzy you dont pay for and doesnt having you do stupid crap behind it. An admirer.
 

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I like to joke around and have fun with everyone I meet, seems to be a good warm up for talking to 9's and 10's!!!
 

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1) New wardrobe.
EVERY single person in a room has self confidence issues. EVERY single person in the room is not as good as you are at something. The quickest way you can gain confidence is to stop comparing yourself to others. In that moment where you can control this, is the min you'll begin to accept and accentuate your positives and you'll feel 100 percent better and it is perpetual.
 

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If you had zero confidence (none whatsoever) how would you 'improve' your confidence?

walking up to random girls and starting conversation? getting ripped/fit .. etc. ?

All of these things are time consuming endeavors ... what i'd like to know is the #1 way you would go about improving your confidence as quickly and significantly as possible?
You can't improve confidence quickly. You have to go through hardship, effort, struggle, education, experience, negotiation, to get confidence. You have to interact with as many people and get in as many situations as possible so you can realize what people can do to do when times get tough, then you will gain some confidence. You also have to have direction and focus, a plan of some sort. A plan that you will never ever give up on, never quit.

So many guys are looking for a quick fix one type of solution to get what they want. It's never happens that way in the real world.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The acquisition ition
You can't improve confidence quickly. You have to go through hardship, effort, struggle, education, experience, negotiation, to get confidence. You have to interact with as many people and get in as many situations as possible so you can realize what people can do to do when times get tough, then you will gain some confidence. You also have to have direction and focus, a plan of some sort. A plan that you will never ever give up on, never quit.

So many guys are looking for a quick fix one type of solution to get what they want. It's never happens that way in the real world.
The acquisition of puzzy will boost his confidence over night. Confidence is made up of alot of factors. Its the result of success.
 

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i do get pvssy .. a lot of it .. but its low quality/average pvssy (chunky chicks, uneducated chicks, hoodrats, etc.) i'm trying to find a girlfriend (quality/bring around family/make you feel proud type) not just something to stick my d1ck into several times a week
 

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i do get pvssy .. a lot of it .. but its low quality/average pvssy (chunky chicks, uneducated chicks, hoodrats, etc.) i'm trying to find a girlfriend (quality/bring around family/make you feel proud type) not just something to stick my d1ck into several times a week
Where you from?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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