"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What is my next step?

Yakovinho

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sorry if it's too long.

I'm a sophmore (10th grade) and there is a girl which she is senior (12th grade).
so 2 months ago in the beginning of the term i moved to a new gym class which we play soccer there.
so i dont know what happened but i liked that girl so much, but i was super AFC and asked my friend who takes the same class as her to ask that girl what she thinks about me, and before that me and the girl i like talked just maybe for 1 minute.
so the time passed by, and always in the hall ways we make strong eye contact but we do not say anything to each other.

last week we went outside to play soccer outside and no one on her team came so i decided to make a step and go to play on her team that we gonna make a little connection so we played and we won 2-0.
on the next day i went to see her playing soccer with the school team and the first time she passed by me she looked down i dont know if she did it because she was shy or scared or something else...

so basically what is my next step?

P.S. she has a boyfriend from what i understood.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Serialized3

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your next step should be to game her.

Flirt with her, if she responds well to that start more kino, then if all systems are go tell her that she should go out with you.
 

Jay Jay

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Talk to her.

I know that sounds crazy, but its so crazy it might actually work!

JJ
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Vypros

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Serialized3 said:
your next step should be to game her.

Flirt with her, if she responds well to that start more kino, then if all systems are go tell her that she should go out with you.
No, forget "gaming" her. Forget "flirting" with her. Flirting is a WOMAN'S game. Men do not "flirt", they DO!

You're next step is to ask her out!

Forget about everything else. Forget about kino and escalation and all the mumbo jumbo. You simply walk up to her the next time you see her and you GO FOR IT!

Don't sit around and reason through it. Don't sit around and make excuses. THE NEXT TIME YOU SEE HER YOU ASK HER OUT.
 

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Vypros said:
No, forget "gaming" her. Forget "flirting" with her. Flirting is a WOMAN'S game. Men do not "flirt", they DO!

You're next step is to ask her out!

Forget about everything else. Forget about kino and escalation and all the mumbo jumbo. You simply walk up to her the next time you see her and you GO FOR IT!

Don't sit around and reason through it. Don't sit around and make excuses. THE NEXT TIME YOU SEE HER YOU ASK HER OUT.
Uh, flirting is actually a strong indicator of two things, primarily social adeptness, but it also expresses sexual interest. I flirt all the time, even with girls im not interested in. Makes me more well-liked.

"Asking a girl out" puts you in a submissive position. SUGGEST that you two go out for a drink or whatever. But don't ask.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Vypros

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Serialized3 said:
Uh, flirting is actually a strong indicator of two things, primarily social adeptness, but it also expresses sexual interest. I flirt all the time, even with girls im not interested in. Makes me more well-liked.

"Asking a girl out" puts you in a submissive position. SUGGEST that you two go out for a drink or whatever. But don't ask.
Flirting is a woman's game. I'm not saying that you shouldn't flirt, but at the end of the day it's a woman's game. What I was saying is that you don't use flirting to "escalate". You use flirting to play her game.

The guy needs to escalate, and that means he needs to ask her out. And when I say "ask" I use that term loosely.
 
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