"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What is my next step?

Yakovinho

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sorry if it's too long.

I'm a sophmore (10th grade) and there is a girl which she is senior (12th grade).
so 2 months ago in the beginning of the term i moved to a new gym class which we play soccer there.
so i dont know what happened but i liked that girl so much, but i was super AFC and asked my friend who takes the same class as her to ask that girl what she thinks about me, and before that me and the girl i like talked just maybe for 1 minute.
so the time passed by, and always in the hall ways we make strong eye contact but we do not say anything to each other.

last week we went outside to play soccer outside and no one on her team came so i decided to make a step and go to play on her team that we gonna make a little connection so we played and we won 2-0.
on the next day i went to see her playing soccer with the school team and the first time she passed by me she looked down i dont know if she did it because she was shy or scared or something else...

so basically what is my next step?

P.S. she has a boyfriend from what i understood.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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your next step should be to game her.

Flirt with her, if she responds well to that start more kino, then if all systems are go tell her that she should go out with you.
 

Jay Jay

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Talk to her.

I know that sounds crazy, but its so crazy it might actually work!

JJ
 

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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Vypros

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Serialized3 said:
your next step should be to game her.

Flirt with her, if she responds well to that start more kino, then if all systems are go tell her that she should go out with you.
No, forget "gaming" her. Forget "flirting" with her. Flirting is a WOMAN'S game. Men do not "flirt", they DO!

You're next step is to ask her out!

Forget about everything else. Forget about kino and escalation and all the mumbo jumbo. You simply walk up to her the next time you see her and you GO FOR IT!

Don't sit around and reason through it. Don't sit around and make excuses. THE NEXT TIME YOU SEE HER YOU ASK HER OUT.
 

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Vypros said:
No, forget "gaming" her. Forget "flirting" with her. Flirting is a WOMAN'S game. Men do not "flirt", they DO!

You're next step is to ask her out!

Forget about everything else. Forget about kino and escalation and all the mumbo jumbo. You simply walk up to her the next time you see her and you GO FOR IT!

Don't sit around and reason through it. Don't sit around and make excuses. THE NEXT TIME YOU SEE HER YOU ASK HER OUT.
Uh, flirting is actually a strong indicator of two things, primarily social adeptness, but it also expresses sexual interest. I flirt all the time, even with girls im not interested in. Makes me more well-liked.

"Asking a girl out" puts you in a submissive position. SUGGEST that you two go out for a drink or whatever. But don't ask.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Serialized3 said:
Uh, flirting is actually a strong indicator of two things, primarily social adeptness, but it also expresses sexual interest. I flirt all the time, even with girls im not interested in. Makes me more well-liked.

"Asking a girl out" puts you in a submissive position. SUGGEST that you two go out for a drink or whatever. But don't ask.
Flirting is a woman's game. I'm not saying that you shouldn't flirt, but at the end of the day it's a woman's game. What I was saying is that you don't use flirting to "escalate". You use flirting to play her game.

The guy needs to escalate, and that means he needs to ask her out. And when I say "ask" I use that term loosely.
 
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