What is maturity to you?

[DiegoSantori]

I'm 24 years old and I have a serious crush on a woman that is 5 years older than me. We already went on a date and kissed. I guess, a woman at that age wants a mature guy. I consider myself mature for the most part but there are situations when I think that I still have some growing up to do.

So, how would you define maturity? Keeping a cool mind / Keeping emotions in check in every situation?

 

[InnerHappiness]

Don't assume that she is looking for a mature guy, even if she explicitly tells you.

She's approaching her 30's and knows she won't be able to compete with women who are in their 20's much longer. The urge to settle down with Mr. Right conflicts with the last Hoo-rah party-mode of her former self.

My advice, keep things fun and adventurous, while reinforcing her of stability - career, ambitions and the possibility of settling down (even if you aren't ready.) Talk about travels and put in her mind the possibilities of creating a world together. Don't neg too hard, I find women in this age bracket to be more insecure.

Most importantly - Always push the envelope, you will never know what you can get away with. I suggest to have her meet you at your place, catch an Uber and bar hop. Have some bait to have her check out something at your place, fish tank, painting, coffee, etc. Remember, if she wants to bang you, she has already decided after the first date. Lob that fvcking sh!t, don't end up kicking yourself just because you were too afraid to seal the deal.

For the question, I believe maturity is knowing the world is a fvcked up, but at the same time, you're trying to make it a better place.

 

[Poon King]

I define "maturity" as losing the need for outside validation. The more you need the approval of others the more of a child you are.

Also.. don't worry about what she is looking for. That's her f*cking problem. Worry about what YOU are looking for and learn to have a "this is me.. take it or leave it" attitude.

If you plan on becoming more mature JUST to keep ONE woman interested then you have already lost the game AND you are ironically.. very immature. :crackup:

Never change for a woman.

 

[Hollowpoints]

I define "maturity" as losing the need for outside validation. The more you need the approval of others the more of a child you are.

Also.. don't worry about what she is looking for. That's her f*cking problem. Worry about what YOU are looking for and learn to have a "this is me.. take it or leave it" attitude.

If you plan on becoming more mature JUST to keep ONE woman interested then you have already lost the game AND you are ironically.. very immature. :crackup:

Never change for a woman.

Sez the mgtow who needs the approval of ss, other mgtows and entitled females he spends his beta bucks to buy drinks for in hopes he gets laid.

You are a comedian poof king. :crackup:

 

[sharkbeat]

I define "maturity" as losing the need for outside validation.

This is it. Do things because you enjoy them.

 

[InnerHappiness]

I define "maturity" as losing the need for outside validation. The more you need the approval of others the more of a child you are.

Also.. don't worry about what she is looking for. That's her f*cking problem. Worry about what YOU are looking for and learn to have a "this is me.. take it or leave it" attitude.

If you plan on becoming more mature JUST to keep ONE woman interested then you have already lost the game AND you are ironically.. very immature. :crackup:

Never change for a woman.

Never change for a woman is great advice. The caveat is having your sh!t together - career, physique, goals - otherwise, you'll be another loser expecting the world to hand everything on a silver platter.

Coincidentally, having your sh!t together will attract much more women than what goes around on here. SoSuave is an awesome place to boost those other factors in your favor. If you don't have sh!t together, nothing is going to give you success toward women or anywhere in life.

 

[Rainman4707]

You must spread some reputation around before giving it to Poon king again.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Be accountable for what you say, what you do, how you feel and who you are. Own your own sh1t; that's it. If you blame someone else for any of these things, how can anyone truly say that you're mature?