"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What is it? with Girls and NOTES

S-lemond

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OK, on friday i recieved two notes from two different girls (again<= if you remeber my first post) its wierd, its like they enjoy talking on paper, instead of verbally(or maybe they dont wanna get introuble in class, i dont know!) OK so in my last post i told you guys about me telling this girl that i didnt have her number(im a DJin way, i just dont feel like going back through that process) ok so the same girl gives me a note saying:

HB: (478) 960-8326
ME: i verbally say that i cant read what she wrote, it was bad handwritting,

Then her friend snatches the note off of my desk, and rewrites the number and also adds

HB#2: How is that hard to read yours(as in my writting) is prob. worse
ME: You just want to start a convo with me; 16 years old, with a drivers liscence and you dont even drive, hmmmmm......wat does that tell us......
HB#2: Actually I do drive, where i want to & Im not ready to go on the interstate myself yet.
ME: hard to drive when your 4'10 huh?
HB#2: No Im 5'1 and no its not. cause i have a volvo brand new 05
Me: WOW 5'1- you'd better stop growing, you GIANT!(Im 6'2)
HB#2 Im fine, im going to be about 5'3 but im fine the way i am, your just jealous

RAN OUTTA SPACE ON THE CARD......LOL

ok so origanal the note was giving to me from another girl, and now she writes me another one saying
HB#1: wat are you writing about with katina (HB#2)
Me: wo...... dont tell me you getting jealous
HB#1: hahaha! maybe but i want two know

BELL RINGS CLASS OVER

i dont know what it is with some girls and notes, do they girl you guys notes also??? If they do, they must be interested in you, or testing you!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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immrtlwun

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don't worry about it, just go along with it. Girls do a lot of things that we (guys) don't understand. Don't worry about little things like notes. As long as you get her number and eventually a date its all good.

p.s.- next time dont write her number down, somebody here might just call her and steal her from you.
 

penkitten

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notes are a way of communication for us .
if you reply then we know things are good.
if you do not reply , then we know things are bad.

no worries, the notes stop at the end of highschool.



for example, gio and i rarely leave each other notes.
when we do, its very thoughtful .
usually we just tell each other whatever is going on instead of leaving a note for it.
 

Centaurion

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lol smart move posting her number here.


some twit will probably call her
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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S-lemond

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LOL.......without her name! good luck whoever does
 

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I got bad news for you man...

I called her... she's my new girlfriend. Thanks dude! :cheer:
 

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Here is what you do on the next note:

Write the note then send one of your friends to give it to her while you wait at a corner.
This is what you write:

Do you like me?
Check yes or no:

Then put some boxes with yes and another with no.

Works EVERYTIME!

Cheers mate.
 

S-lemond

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Originally posted by bluelemond
Here is what you do on the next note:

Write the note then send one of your friends to give it to her while you wait at a corner.
This is what you write:

Do you like me?
Check yes or no:

Then put some boxes with yes and another with no.

Works EVERYTIME!

Cheers mate.
i hope your not being serious
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Smooth Player 056

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the firs convo on the card seemed like too much ****y and not enough funny.......I think they both dig you and yes your right the other girl is getting jealous. Id play both of the chicks for now but soon you will have to pick one




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