"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What is healthy sexual desire?

jurry

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How much is too much? Sex, anticipation of sex, memory of sex seems to consume me and many others, hitting on girls at work, always looking for a way to get xyz hot girl that I see out in the world, trying to fvck as many girls from online as possible, etc.

Why are we incapable of monogamy? Should we act on all sexual desire? When is it natural and healthy and when is it compulsive and obsessive? I have previously struggled with other addictions (drugs, etc.) and fear I am now just trying to lose myself in the next delusion.

I guess it comes down to a lack of self control and/or self respect.

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Reckoning

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It's part of human nature to never be happy with what you have for too long.

When you're single and messing around all over the place, you eventually catch yourself wishing for something meaningful.

When a meaningful thing falls apart, or lasts too long, you catch yourself wishing you didn't spend so much time being monogamous.

You're looking at things from a wrong perspective, if you want something you go get it, or at least try your best, that's just life. Is xyz behaviour normal? If it feels good and your life isn't falling apart because of it, I'm pretty sure it's normal.

My advice is think long and hard from a third person view about what you're doing with your days, your activities, your personality and interests, and whether most people would be envious of them. If they would, you're doing better than most and you should appreciate that dude.
 
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