"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What is healthy sexual desire?

jurry

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How much is too much? Sex, anticipation of sex, memory of sex seems to consume me and many others, hitting on girls at work, always looking for a way to get xyz hot girl that I see out in the world, trying to fvck as many girls from online as possible, etc.

Why are we incapable of monogamy? Should we act on all sexual desire? When is it natural and healthy and when is it compulsive and obsessive? I have previously struggled with other addictions (drugs, etc.) and fear I am now just trying to lose myself in the next delusion.

I guess it comes down to a lack of self control and/or self respect.

Thoughts?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Reckoning

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It's part of human nature to never be happy with what you have for too long.

When you're single and messing around all over the place, you eventually catch yourself wishing for something meaningful.

When a meaningful thing falls apart, or lasts too long, you catch yourself wishing you didn't spend so much time being monogamous.

You're looking at things from a wrong perspective, if you want something you go get it, or at least try your best, that's just life. Is xyz behaviour normal? If it feels good and your life isn't falling apart because of it, I'm pretty sure it's normal.

My advice is think long and hard from a third person view about what you're doing with your days, your activities, your personality and interests, and whether most people would be envious of them. If they would, you're doing better than most and you should appreciate that dude.
 
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