Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
People got tired of listening to you as BigJimbo trolololol boy? Just how many single moms have you personally dated to be able to speak in absolutes for them? Odd how someone who's got millions of single hot Chinese babes all over him finds the time to post here so much. If any poster had all those 'hot babes' everywhere they looked and was meeting them daily they would never have time to post here.LiveFreeX said:I'm amazed at the sheer number of retards so willing to throw their lives away. Is life that bad for you that you need to date a single mom? Really? **** man... you'd have to be the ugliest, poorest most desperate and disease ridden mother ****er on the planet to consider a single mom... like jesus christ dude, there are MILLIONS of hot single (CHILDLESS) VIRGIN women here in China waiting for their chance to have at a foreigner and you pick a single mom..
I swear to god some of you have pure sh1t for brains. Do you realize even HALF the fvcking risks of dating these nut jobs. Why the hell is she single in the first place? Consider the kind of woman that she is and the kind of ex that has been banging her and will continue doing so well into the future and then add yourself into that equation... then tack on a kid that she will eventually want you to become the father of or worse if she gets pregnant by you... man you are setting yourself up for one hell of a ****ty future as a cuckold.
This will not end well.
MedDude said:Just trying to get everyone's experiences/opinions on dating a single mom.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I disagree. There is no valid reason why answering ‘no’ is indicative of a scarcity mentality, whereas answering ‘yes’ is. It’s guys who have many options who can better afford to mercilessly judge women, since they have an abundance of poon, whereas it’s the guys with lesser options who have to make concessions, since they have scarcity.st_99:
In general, you really need to ask yourself, "If I had my choice, would I choose a single mom?" If the answer is no, then you probably have a scarcity mentality, which is bad because single, good looking girls without kids are everywhere.