"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What is considered putting a woman on a PEDESTAL

Clark Kent

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Can you give me a description of these two types of situations. The first situation would be an approach from a normal club, street or bar setting. So I start initiating conversation with a woman, the first thing that comes out of my mouth is "You're Cute, Bla Bla Bla " Am I putting her on a pedestal? I know you should state you're interest in girls, but isn't this making her the prize?

The second situation would be, attaining contact details from a female no longer than a week from getting it, you set up a date. She either cancels or flakes on you, what would be the proper course of action for this? Without putting her on a pedestal? Would you, call her again to re-organize another date or wait for her to do this?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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taiyuu_otoko

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Clark Kent said:
"You're Cute, Bla Bla Bla " Am I putting her on a pedestal?
depends. What's going through your mind when you say it?

A)omigodomigodomigod i hope shelikes me please like me please like ohmigod

or

B) Interesting. let's see what happens.

Would you, call her again to re-organize another date or wait for her to do this?
She won't. You can call and try once more, but don't expect much. keep getting numbers.
 

SeymourCake

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Putting her on a pedestal is basically treating her different than anybody else just because she looks good.

You don't wanna initiate a conversation with her saying she's cute. Chances are, she's heard that a thousand times. Try a different approach.
 

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Clark Kent said:
...you set up a date. She either cancels or flakes on you, what would be the proper course of action for this? Without putting her on a pedestal? Would you, call her again to re-organize another date or wait for her to do this?
Apply the 2 Strikes rule to cancelations, she gets a second chance if she gives you a credible reason for canceling and sounds enthusiatic about seeing you again ,or if she makes a counter offer.
If she cancels a second time, cut her loose.

Apply the One strike rule to flakes. No exceptions. Flaking shows a defect in her character.

That should save you from being jerked around by wackjobs, snotty princesses, women with b/fs , AW's and low interest pretenders.
 
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