"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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What Is Confidence?

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Belief in your abilities, especially those that promote your belief in being able to integrate with what life has to offer.
 

Heisenburger

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I believe there is no such thing as confidence. Just fear's and self doubt clouding over your natural self. For example - the immediate moment of overcoming something that you are afraid of such as completing a bungee jump, talking to a stranger, holding eye contact with an interviewer is when you are at your most natural. The safety net will catch you, guaranteed.

Just do it.
 

zekko

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I think confidence is just your ability to do what needs to be done in order to get what you want.

I'm also suspicious of confidence as a trait because you can't really pull it out and show it to some chick, "Look, I have more confidence than he does, therefore you should be attracted to me". All you can do is show you handle different situations, and show good body language.
 
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