i see myself as a nice guy as in i do things/favors for other people if im not busy; more specifically giving females rides to places sometimes since i have a car. One of my guy friends says this is called being taken advantage of. So what is bad about doing nice things like that for people? I don't get things in return most of the time from these females that i give rides to and i guess that is the problem. So how do i go about saying NO the DJ way?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
what is "bad" about being a nice guy?
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
There's nothing wrong with it if they're your friends, if you want to take it further then you're going to have problems. As for saying no, just say "actually I am busy right now, hope you can find another ride." do NOT apologize for being busy, whether you're busy or not is irrelevant.
There's also a difference between doing it because you enjoy being nice vs. doing it because you think it's gonna get you in their pants. Obviously, being a girl's chauffeur isn't gonna get her to be attracted to you, but it doesn't really matter if that's not the effect you're going for.
The DJ does things because they make him happy. It takes a slight bit of selfishness.
The DJ does things because they make him happy. It takes a slight bit of selfishness.
eh i told a girl yesterday that i was headed to the store today to by some food and she could come with me but then she hit me up today and i basically ignored her....
how can i get them to do things for me in general though?
how can i get them to do things for me in general though?
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She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You know being nice is doing things without expecting anything back, right?
it doesn't mean let people take advantage of you, but don't do things for people just because you want them to do something for you too. That's not being nice, that just being sneaky
Just because you give them rides doesn't mean they'll jump at the chance to give you one too, but when you need help you'll see how the true people are who appreciate what you do, because they'll be there for you
As for being a tax cab. if it's out of the way, I usually request Gas money. That sh1t ain't cheap. then they'll be doing something for ya
Don't let people walk over you, and learn to say no. Honestly if you don't want to drive these girls around then don't offer lol.
I'm a nice guy myself, but I don't let people take advantage of me. if they don't at least show some thankfulness or grow to expect being helped all the time then it's time to cut the service loose
it doesn't mean let people take advantage of you, but don't do things for people just because you want them to do something for you too. That's not being nice, that just being sneaky
Just because you give them rides doesn't mean they'll jump at the chance to give you one too, but when you need help you'll see how the true people are who appreciate what you do, because they'll be there for you
As for being a tax cab. if it's out of the way, I usually request Gas money. That sh1t ain't cheap. then they'll be doing something for ya
Don't let people walk over you, and learn to say no. Honestly if you don't want to drive these girls around then don't offer lol.
I'm a nice guy myself, but I don't let people take advantage of me. if they don't at least show some thankfulness or grow to expect being helped all the time then it's time to cut the service loose