"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What is an Awkward Pass?

dutchmaster

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So I was recently at a party where I was just flirting with everyone there, being fun. There were only 2 girls I actually wanted to get with there and one had mentioned how I made a few "awkward passes" on her. What's that mean? Do I come off as awkward by not saying things with enough confidence maybe? I try to speak with conviction
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Mike32ct

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I don't think we have enough infornation.

Sure, it's probably a safe bet that this girl (that made the comment) isn't attracted to you.

But maybe, in all fairness, your move was awkward or uncomfortable?

I don't know. We would have to know in detail what you did.
 

dutchmaster

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Mike32ct said:
I don't think we have enough infornation.

Sure, it's probably a safe bet that this girl (that made the comment) isn't attracted to you.

But maybe, in all fairness, your move was awkward or uncomfortable?

I don't know. We would have to know in detail what you did.
I was pretty drunk so it's a little hazey in my mind (New Years eve). One of them I told her she looked really sexy in her outfit, I guess that's too direct for her.
 

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A drunk "pass" at a sober girl = awkward

Except if you're Brad Pitt. Then it's super sexy.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Understood thanks
 
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