"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What is an Awkward Pass?

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So I was recently at a party where I was just flirting with everyone there, being fun. There were only 2 girls I actually wanted to get with there and one had mentioned how I made a few "awkward passes" on her. What's that mean? Do I come off as awkward by not saying things with enough confidence maybe? I try to speak with conviction
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I don't think we have enough infornation.

Sure, it's probably a safe bet that this girl (that made the comment) isn't attracted to you.

But maybe, in all fairness, your move was awkward or uncomfortable?

I don't know. We would have to know in detail what you did.
 

dutchmaster

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Mike32ct said:
I don't think we have enough infornation.

Sure, it's probably a safe bet that this girl (that made the comment) isn't attracted to you.

But maybe, in all fairness, your move was awkward or uncomfortable?

I don't know. We would have to know in detail what you did.
I was pretty drunk so it's a little hazey in my mind (New Years eve). One of them I told her she looked really sexy in her outfit, I guess that's too direct for her.
 

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A drunk "pass" at a sober girl = awkward

Except if you're Brad Pitt. Then it's super sexy.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Understood thanks
 
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