What is a better method?

[gm8384]

Is it best to meet a girl, and get a number/set up a date the first or second time you chat or is it better to chat several times before going for the kill?

I think the sooner the better. I don't want her thinking my intentions are to be friends. I think the first date (generally coffee) should be the time to get to know more about eachother, not many or lenghty conversations before the date.

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

Damn..I'm fed up!

I'm pretty much sick of newbs asking the same questions.

When should I call?
Should I ask for her number?
Is coffee date better than a tea date?
Is wearing cologne too obvious?
Is plaid shirts on a date better than checkerd ones?

WHERE THE F*CK HAS YOUR F*CKING COMMON SENSE GONE?

Read the DJB and f*cking try whatever you feel works at the situation. STOP LIVING YOUR LIFE SCRIPTED.

NONE OF THIS DJING WORKS IF YOU DON'T MEASURE HER INTEREST IN YOU.

IF ITS HIGH..Then do whatever you feel short of being an AFC pansy..ITS THAT SIMPLE.

If she digs you..you can tell...and if she does, you can ask her for the number the first time..the second time or whenever.

READ THE DJB summore and you'll answer your own questions on this matter.

 

[gm8384]

I think I have read the DJ bible, a few times actually. And amazingly enough, I posted my own thoughts on it, unlike newbies that are zombies and can't voice their own opinion.

The Bible says get the number and keep convos to a minumum before the date. But is the bible always right? No. Everyone works a little different.

I was mearly wondering if people feel they stand a better chance by letting the date be the time to get to know eachother or getting to know a little more about each other before the date.

 

[VictorK]

I was mearly wondering if people feel they stand a better chance by letting the date be the time to get to know eachother or getting to know a little more about each other before the date.


Both. You answered yourself.

 

[gm8384]

VictorK - I actually want to thank you for pointing out the obvious. I think I was taking all of the "be a mystery", "reveal as little as you can about yourself" and "keep conversations to a minumim" too seriously.

I still think the date is the best time to get to know one another, but aside from showing you are confident and competent enough to speak before asking her, I think that if you will see her around, it is best to take one of those times before you go out and endulge in a little conversation that holds some interest vs small talk.