What if you can't even do this?

[zzirf25]

I have known guys who have trouble having a conversation with other guys and so talking to girls is way out of the question in their minds. This one guy in particular always trys to talk with people but just has alot of trouble doing it, so what I was wondering is what does a (straight)guy do when he has trouble talking to people in his own sex?

 

[Alphathree]

As David D. would say: It's where you're at. There are levels to everything. You need to proceed from one level to the next. This is no different.

But like I was telling someone in another thread, stop TRYING to have CONVERSATIONS with people and start COMMUNICATING with them when you feel like it.

Join groups where you can hang around a lot of people, and don't feel like you have to say anything. If a thought or observation enters your head, express it to the group/person near you.

That'll get you started in normal social situations. Just don't be ATTACHED to the outcome (i.e. the response to your comments.)

Don't get me wrong, you ARE trying to generate positive response. But if you burn the first 100 things you communicate, don't worry about it.

 

[Smooth Player 056]

Originally posted by Alphathree
As David D. would say: It's where you're at. There are levels to everything. You need to proceed from one level to the next. This is no different.

But like I was telling someone in another thread, stop TRYING to have CONVERSATIONS with people and start COMMUNICATING with them when you feel like it.

Join groups where you can hang around a lot of people, and don't feel like you have to say anything. If a thought or observation enters your head, express it to the group/person near you.

That'll get you started in normal social situations. Just don't be ATTACHED to the outcome (i.e. the response to your comments.)

Don't get me wrong, you ARE trying to generate positive response. But if you burn the first 100 things you communicate, don't worry about it.

we all have our faults.....u gotta just grab ur balls and do it...just like approaching, kino, closing everything in this game is just grabbing your balls and doing it.

Guys here are like i asked her for her number and she wrote it!!!!!!!!!!! umm...anyone here could have said the exact same thing u said its just that u grabbed your balls and did it


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