"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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what if u lost ur girlfriend and ur friends?

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what if ur girlfriend cheated on you with a friend of yours, makin' u lose all your friends?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The truth in life is that we are all replaceable and some things don't last forever.

Instead of being afraid to lose, embrace the nature of change and go after new friends and hos yourself.

The worst thing you can do is to remind yourself of a failed relationship and use that as an indicator of your value as a man.
 

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Part of having the title "friend" is making sure that you have some respect and responsibility for the well being of another. If you disrespect someone and your actions end up hurting someone then you are not a friend. Friends should celebrate life with you and not bring you down.

I say good riddance. Kick the girl and the guy out of your life because its obviously they don't care about you and they have broken the trust that was established between the three of you.
 

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and besides, you, me..

we can make loads of friends, new, beter friends that we can trust and count on, and being a true up and coming DON JAUN, learning, reading the dj bible, attending boot camp, we can learn to be what we want to be..
 

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Sounds like she wasn't really your girlfriend and those guys were not truly your friends. Don't waste your time feeling sorry about yourself. Take a moment to think about you you you will do things differently next time and then go out and get a real girlfriend and some real friends. You're probably better off without the lot of them...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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this has not happen, it's just my fear, 'cuz a friend of mine stole another friend of mine's girlfriend, then this other guy stole mine... now, i'm really scared that another one of my friends is going to steal my new girlfriend... what can i do to prevent this from happenin'?
 

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WTF, how can you call them friends if you cant trust them?

My friends know that their girlfriends are like guys to me, and so is my girlfriend to my real friends.
 

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if you want to prevent this then ditch the people who go behind your back man.. an i would kick the crap out of a guy who did that to me!!
 

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i'm very thankful for ur advice, but consider this:

1. i like my friends very much and i don't wanna lose'em
2. in italy, unfortunately, almost everybody is this way... it's a really common thing to steal someone else's girlfriend.

i know it's fùcked up (i can't even think of a friend's girlfriend in a sexual way, it just makes me sick), but what can i do?
 

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Originally posted by CharmaLeo
The truth in life is that we are all replaceable and some things don't last forever.

Instead of being afraid to lose, embrace the nature of change and go after new friends and hos yourself.

The worst thing you can do is to remind yourself of a failed relationship and use that as an indicator of your value as a man.
Well put.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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