rakishness
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Would nightlife be a lot better? Would the ratio of men to women at bars and clubs be more even instead of a constant sausagefest? What do you guys think? Thanks
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Yup. And women get WAAAAY more replies on online dating sites then men. So its no wonder why MOST bars/clubs are full of DUDES.Deadly_Ripped said:I just realized earlier today that the fact that I'm on OK Cupid leads me to be less aggressive in going out and meeting new women. I hang out with my friends (whom I refuse to sleep with because I don't SHT where I eat), and then occasionally hang out with someone new.
If I didn't have the internet dating scene, and lots of activity (but very few actual meetups), then I'd probably be out there more often.
I don't think anything can help the ratio of men to women at bars and clubs except a military draftrakishness said:Would nightlife be a lot better? Would the ratio of men to women at bars and clubs be more even instead of a constant sausagefest? What do you guys think? Thanks
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Yea...i was on one of those sites a little awhile back. It actually wasn't as bad as i thought it would be. I even had women approaching me on there. It just sucks cuz i prefer meeting people face to face. But night time game has gotten so bad I've had no choice.vatoloco said:Dude, what's the point of "what ifs"? The internet, online dating and facebook all exist and therefore must be assimilated into your game.
Unless you want to be a pariah...