rakishness
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Would nightlife be a lot better? Would the ratio of men to women at bars and clubs be more even instead of a constant sausagefest? What do you guys think? Thanks
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
What if there was no internet, online dating or facebook?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Deadly_Ripped
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I just realized earlier today that the fact that I'm on OK Cupid leads me to be less aggressive in going out and meeting new women. I hang out with my friends (whom I refuse to sleep with because I don't SHT where I eat), and then occasionally hang out with someone new.
If I didn't have the internet dating scene, and lots of activity (but very few actual meetups), then I'd probably be out there more often.
If I didn't have the internet dating scene, and lots of activity (but very few actual meetups), then I'd probably be out there more often.
rakishness
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Yup. And women get WAAAAY more replies on online dating sites then men. So its no wonder why MOST bars/clubs are full of DUDES.Deadly_Ripped said:
I don't think anything can help the ratio of men to women at bars and clubs except a military draftrakishness said:
When first starting out most guys go to these places for the purpose of meeting women. Later on these places become gatherings for group night outs with buddies and female acquaintances.
The Bad Ass Canadian
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If none of this online stuff existed, the dating world would be a heck of a lot simpler and we would all learn by doing.
Anyone old enough to have dated through the 90's will know what I'm talking about. It really was a simpler time with less flakes and less A.D.D. behavior all around.
Anyone old enough to have dated through the 90's will know what I'm talking about. It really was a simpler time with less flakes and less A.D.D. behavior all around.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
rakishness
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Yea...i was on one of those sites a little awhile back. It actually wasn't as bad as i thought it would be. I even had women approaching me on there. It just sucks cuz i prefer meeting people face to face. But night time game has gotten so bad I've had no choice.vatoloco said: