"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What if cold replies don't work??

Lost In the Seas

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My relationship with my ex ended a few months ago, but recently i have been catching signs that she want the relationship back. I DO want her back, and i read posts and concluded that however enthusiastic she is to me, be cold to her, make yourself a challenge, do not make it clear that you want her.

And i did just that, she calls me on the phone or talk to me on msn and sometimes i would talk to her with little enthusiasm, or sometimes with great interest to leave her the mystery of whether i like her or not. It seemed to work well as she keeps on coming back, desperatelly wanting to know if i do indeed still like her or not. But just this week her enthusiasm appeared to dropped somewhat, she seems to have given up or something, what should i do now?

Continue to be cold to her? Starts to show interest? Next her? But i do want her

Any suggestions will be greatly appreciated
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Qmanchoo

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Do you honestly expect her to make the move and get you two out doing something or back together? Games can be ok for getting her interested again but once you have her interest back, which you do, you need to progress or it stays exactly at what it is, a game.

I dont reccomend getting back together with ex GF's but if you don't make a move while her interest is high you will lose it once again since you may not be the only option on the table...or she concludes you don't like her or any number of crazy things chicks make up in their heads.

I mean, what are you waiting for here? If she's "desperatelly wanting to know if i do indeed still like her or not" it's time to take a hint.
 

MidnightResistance

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Just invite her round to fvck.

If she says no. Then you're better off without her.
If she says yes. Bang her, then leave her.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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squirrels

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Throw on the brakes here a second.

Let's start with WHY you guys broke up, WHO initiated the break-up, and WHY she wants to come back.

Then you have to decide whether you really WANT her back, or whether you're just so empty without a girl that you'll take her back even if you DON'T want her. If it's the latter, then you need your attitude and confidence adjusted.

Finally, when these things have been worked out, THEN you can discuss whether to "play it cool" or "take her back".

This isn't stuff you really NEED our help for. If you're smart, you can figure it out on your own. But if you need help, we're here.
 

Sweetcheeks

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BE FUN

What you need to do is to PLAY HARD TO GET, not be a killjoy.

Hang out with her a bit, give her a taste of how much fun you are, make her laugh, and THEN back off by BEING UNAVAILABLE.

Don't be rude or offensive in any way. Make the limited time she gets with you wonderful, so that she misses you.

Two steps forward, one step back, and you will move CLOSER to you goal.
 
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