"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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what I think is wrong with DJism

frivolousz21

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I think the main problem is...it curtails more to reacting to the women..rather then being the man.

its clear the main intention was to change the man into what he wants to be.

but it seems the outcome is changing into what will get him the women the easiest.



but in reality this isnt about women.

yet it is..seems complicated. there is to much conflict.

the disclaimer should read:

EVEN THOUGH YOU ARE CONFIDENT, STRONG, POWERFUL AND SUAVE....YOU MAY STILL GET HURT IN SOMEWAY BECAUSE OF A WOMAN.


I think issue number 1 is emotions..Sosuave is really going against human nature...men are very passionate driven competetive creatures..

we all want to win.

we all have passions...if we werent EMOTIONAL YOU WOULDNT SEE OTHER GUYS FLAMING EACH OTHER ALL ACCROSS THE INTERNET AND REAL LIFE.

the diff between being emotional afc is..control.

women love a passionate man...women love humility in men too.

infact men love to be humble as well..but most are afraid to show that side in fear of looking or appearing weak.

self depricating humor done with confidence is golden...so is being ****y with confidence.

Take notice..about 90 percent of SS posters flame me..or have flamed me...why? probably because Ive done the pua game..now the LTR life acting more moderate then being "hard ass" because the inner light kicked in on me that..my world runs by how I percieve it.

regardless of all that..anytime you see a poster post about women doing this or that..

they have just supplicated themselves to what others are doing and not what they should be doing.


this is about you...be urself first..find urself..be the man u want to be....do the things u want to do and the confidence will grow.


throw all studies on divorce and women and BLAH out..and focus on ur inner game..and waht others do will be irrevelent to ur success.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I don't think this is a valid thread seeing as you think you can specify what DJism is in just a few lines. Hence i ask nobody else to post in here so we can have more space for decent threads. There is nothing wrong with DJism, you are just doing DJism wrong.
 

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There is nothing wrong with DJism, you are just doing DJism wrong.
trust me...if ive done it wrong...then there is other ways to success with women then this one
 

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i guess being a good PUA/DJ/Snatchpuller requires you to be somewhat cold and calculating and takes away some of your human feelings.

and yes, we are emotional, passionate creatures, so i guess the trick is to make it work for yourself.

at the end of the day, its whatever makes you happy. There is always a chance to get your heart broken, yet everyone needs love.

i guess the most important lessons of the community are to recognize good vs. bad women, never to stay in a situation where you are taken advantage of or hurt, and of course to be your own, confident, accomplished man.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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frivolousz21

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guess the most important lessons of the community are to recognize good vs. bad women, never to stay in a situation where you are taken advantage of or hurt, and of course to be your own, confident, accomplished man

this is exatly right
 
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