"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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what i should have done in this situation.(regarding eye contact)

lordson

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if you dont have alot of time for long stories, skip straight to last sentence.

a girl i have been noticing for a while and i think she has been noticing me to a lesser extent. well today i happned to be in the same tutorial class as her, completely by chance and blind luck. and she happens to sit directly oposite me.

it wasn't that hot but she took off her jacket and i i thought i might as well take off my jacket and show her a bit of my muscles. well anyway, i find this girl rather atractive and shes on about the same level as me (7.5).

throughout the whole 2 hours she was looking at me alot, i noticed becuase although i was looking away form her face i was concentrating on her and notcied she did glance at me alot. and of course, finding her attractive, i glanced at her alot too.

now i see her in lectures sometimes and we sometimes exchange looks as well, once i sat next to her, with an empty seat seperating, and im not certian but i might have gotten more looks than usual

anyway, at a point in the tute, i looked up form my workbook, and i met her eyes and we were staring directly into each other's eyes for about 1.5 seconds, and to me it felt like 5 seconds, i could feel my blood pumping, BUT i looked away. i blame it on a reflex i have to look away when peopel catch me staring at them

so i was thinking about it later and thought, nay, knew i should have held eye contact and gave her a smile. thats what i SHOULD have done. but i didn't, after that point the looks deminished.

well thats my story. thought others might benefit from my experince.

point is, i should have kept eye contact, and if given enough time, (granted she didn't look away) i should have smiled.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Phyzzle

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See "questions for newbies" on the first chapter of the DJ Bible.

You've gotta bump into this girl again, look her in the eye, engage in some kinda small talk, and get a # or something.
 
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