"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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what i should have done in this situation.(regarding eye contact)

lordson

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if you dont have alot of time for long stories, skip straight to last sentence.

a girl i have been noticing for a while and i think she has been noticing me to a lesser extent. well today i happned to be in the same tutorial class as her, completely by chance and blind luck. and she happens to sit directly oposite me.

it wasn't that hot but she took off her jacket and i i thought i might as well take off my jacket and show her a bit of my muscles. well anyway, i find this girl rather atractive and shes on about the same level as me (7.5).

throughout the whole 2 hours she was looking at me alot, i noticed becuase although i was looking away form her face i was concentrating on her and notcied she did glance at me alot. and of course, finding her attractive, i glanced at her alot too.

now i see her in lectures sometimes and we sometimes exchange looks as well, once i sat next to her, with an empty seat seperating, and im not certian but i might have gotten more looks than usual

anyway, at a point in the tute, i looked up form my workbook, and i met her eyes and we were staring directly into each other's eyes for about 1.5 seconds, and to me it felt like 5 seconds, i could feel my blood pumping, BUT i looked away. i blame it on a reflex i have to look away when peopel catch me staring at them

so i was thinking about it later and thought, nay, knew i should have held eye contact and gave her a smile. thats what i SHOULD have done. but i didn't, after that point the looks deminished.

well thats my story. thought others might benefit from my experince.

point is, i should have kept eye contact, and if given enough time, (granted she didn't look away) i should have smiled.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Phyzzle

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See "questions for newbies" on the first chapter of the DJ Bible.

You've gotta bump into this girl again, look her in the eye, engage in some kinda small talk, and get a # or something.
 
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