What i learned tonight

[Jokerlsk]

Tonight was my school's homecoming dance, I went to the game friday and had a good time with some friends. Anyways, I went with a group of about 12 people. 3 of my buddies had dates, and the rest of us went alone. Now this year, I've changed a lot. I've gotten a lot more popular, I've made a lot more friends, and I've just become more comfortable in myself, but tonight was a total set back. I just realized how much of an AFC i actually am. I'm just not a very sexual person, and it' just so blatantly obvious. I'm just so damn conservative. I'm a funny person, and that's about it, but even my close friends have told me that I use humor as a shield from things like that. I saw all these people dancing, and I was unable to do it myself. I'm just not comfortable with it, and I don't know why. I mean, these kids were grinding and stuff, and the first thing i thought was, "I can't do this." 3 girls wanted to dance with me, and I just couldn't do it. It's just not who I am. It's never been who i am. I'm ****y and funny, and that's about it. What really gets me is that I wanted to do it. I really did. I just was uncomfortable with it. The entire idea of it. I just feel so stupid for not getting out of my comfort zone.

Another thing that I think is really ironic is about what my mom said to me earlier today. I got into an argument with my mom earlier today, and she practically told me that even though I don't make mistakes and follow the rules, I end up not living life because I'm afraid to take chances. I was too stupid to not get a date to homecoming, i was too stupid to not dance with one of the 3 girls who actually asked me, and it's all because I don't know how to take chances. I get in my comfort zone where I know i'll do well, and I never leave it. People tell me that I'm brilliant, but I just can't solve the simplest problems, and it just kills me.

Yeah, I'm a lot better off than i was, but I've realized that I'm not where i want to be yet. Thanks for reading this.

 

[Pierce]

Not that h ard to dance. Just stand up str8 and let them dance on u. follow the rhythm. not that hard and if you have trouble doing that just find a wall or some ****.

 

[shaggy84]

listen to your mom!

 

[happypcrepair]

check out some dancing videos on youtube.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dMH0bHeiRNg

 

[Jokerlsk]

The dancing part isn't hard for me. I don't know how to dance, but it's not a big deal to me. The fact that girls were all over me was overbearing for me. I was uncomfortable with it, and it really just pisses me off. I was brought up the traditional, southern gentlemen type way, and all of that goes against what i was taught. I'm just not used to seeing girls act that way, and I'm such an idiot because 3 girls practically begged me to dance with them.

I still have prom later on to redeem myself.

 

[JCballin88]

I'm guessing you're still in high school? Otherwise I would say...using a little "liquid encouragement" has done wonders for my apprehensiveness on the dance floor. But not if you're in high school still!

When I was your age I felt the same way - watching all those people dancing/grinding just felt really intimidating. My mom even used to say those same things about me. But you just have to jump in there and do it. I'm still not a HUGE fan of clubs and that type of atmosphere, but I'll go if I know some friends are going.

Just remember man - you'll feel more regret at the end of the day from watching on the sidelines than anything the dance floor could do to you if you just jump in!

 

[Jokerlsk]

Yeah, i'm in highschool, and to be honest girls intimidate me.
Not that I can't talk to them, because i can. I love talking to people, and I make friends really easily. I'm friends with a bunch of girls, but that's all i ever let it be. I end it at friendship. It's like i'm afraid of sex, and the whole idea of a relationship. Last night made this clear to me. But you are right JC, I would have no regret if i had just made the most of the situation.