"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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What has fallen into my lap?

DJ_Trainee_10

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I'm a junior in HS and I noticed a good-looking Freshman girl. I figured she never really took interest to me however a few days ago, while walking past here locker, shes comes up to me and gives me a hug. I failed to hug back because I was trying to figure what was going on. She lets go and walks away with a little "good-bye". I take a step forward and pause where I am. Thought a moment. Then continued to walk.

Now thinking about it I wonder what has fallen into my lap? (Is she into me? etc.)

Then it occured to me... I didn't play that right.

Then I found this site. I've been reading articles, posts, and the DJ Bible. You guys have some good techniques at your disposal. I've had my share of girls but I figured I'm not where I can be, a true DJ.

My question now is, how do I recoop from that? How do I play my cards now? I know there are many different ways to go about it so please feel free to share.

I got a lot to work on but DJship here I come.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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sookie

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Don't worry about it; a few bumps in the relationship won't kill your chances. It wasn't anything major or lasting.

Think of it this way: will she be conciously thinking about this a week from now when you are talking to her? Hell no. So don't worry.

Just keep looking foward and use this as motivation not to screw up next time.
 

DJ4Real

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The next time you see her...say something that's ****y and funny....say something like, "That hug you gave me was one he!! of a way to say that you love me......but, you'll need to do more than that to get me"....doesn't have to be word for word....this was just a quick sample.
 

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Listen to Docs...he basically read my mind...

Next time you see her...do the same thing and right before you say it, look at her with EC, smile (playfully) and say "Payback..." then hug her...and just luahg around with it - nothing serious. Play it from there....
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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DJ4Real

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Originally posted by SL1CK
Listen to Docs...he basically read my mind...

Next time you see her...do the same thing and right before you say it, look at her with EC, smile (playfully) and say "Payback..." then hug her...and just luahg around with it - nothing serious. Play it from there....
Of course as doing that is an option..this situation has many avenues.
 
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