"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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somewhatsuave

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What happens when you get rid of your ego?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You get people to walk over you? You don't strive to be better? You get more caring about others?
 

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Honestly, I think minimizing or detaching yourself from your ego is one of the things that can really help you out in your game and life in general.
 

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You start to see things as they really are; objectively. The ego can be blinding at times and cover up possibly beneficial situations, where if you might have acted a little differently, you could have "won the pot" so to speak. That's how I look at it anyway.
 

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I should probably expand on this a bit:

From what I've seen and experienced, a lot of guys are pretty rigid in their self-image. When I go out to the bars and clubs, you can see the dudes that are all caught up in their ego and self-image.

These are the guys that are hanging out in the corners standing with their chests puffed out exaggeratedly with their drinks to their chest, trying to stand taller than they really are (random question: has anyone else noticed a high concentration of short guys in bars/clubs? Seems to be the way it is here in Denver), you know, trying to look cool/hard and basically just posturing. Then one of em goes up, opens a chick, gets blown out, turns red, and goes back to his crew of ball lickers.

Yeah, don't be that guy. Be flexible in what you expect of yourself, and understand that so many parts of life and the game are entirely subjective, just products of electric impulses and brain chemicals and social programming and social dynamics.

1.) Don't confuse who you ARE with who you are percieved to be by others
2.) Don't take things too seriously. If some chickie is indifferent to you, suck it up. Don't take it personally.

I guess that's all I have to say about that.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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