"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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what happens when a guys loses the upper hand?

tjslove

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Here is what happened

A year ago I told a girl I have known since age 7 and dated off and on that I was moving away. She said she had to see me. When I got on the date I admitted to her it was a lie. We did not talk for a year.

Recently we started talking and went over her apt. We made out and talked a little about last year....she seemed fine.

This past Monday she went postal on me about this and how I seem so fake. Which I really like her and now she is making me work for this crap. I sent flowers which she likes but what is my next move if i want her in my life
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Gangster Of Love

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You know need to sweet talk her and charm her into liking you. Lie even more if you have to.

Next, plan an expensive, classy dinner at a nice restaurant. I suggest you rent a limo, and a tuxedo. You gotta look sharp. Don't forget to wear cologne.

Make sure you buy a lot more flowers, get a box of chocolates, and get her a gift, preferably some perfume. Call up her family/friends to find out what kind she likes.

Tell her the only reason why you lied was because you really love her and have been wanting to marry her ever since age 7, and you didn't feel you were good enough for her, so you needed to make up stuff to impress her.

Tell her you can't live without her, and that you life is not complete without her in it. This should make her cry, melt, right in front of you, then you can propose marriage to her, which I suggest you have a ring with you for her.

Tell her about how you have planned the wedding and the honeymoon vacation. By then she will be all over you, and will be calling all her friends and family to tell them the news, she won't be able to contain herself.

Please keep us posted on this one.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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You joined this site in 2005.... Have you learned anything yet or is this a joke? Cause if your being serious you got alot of work to do!!!!!!!!

But, seriously, just buy more flowers.
 

IamMyownMan

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Dote on her.

Ask her what she needs.

Write her poetry.

Serenade her.

Think about her constantly.

Tell her that you think about her constantly.

Tell her she reminds you of your mother.

Leave notes on her car while she is at work.

Leave muffins on her step while another guy is with her in her bedroom.(I witnessed this once. The girl I was with felt bed and then we boned, for the third time of the morning.)

Care about what she thinks of you.

Overanalyze every conversation with her and make it obvious.

Hold in flatulence in her presence.

Let her walk all over you.

Repeat for success...
 

Slick101

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tjslove said:
Here is what happened

A year ago I told a girl I have known since age 7 and dated off and on that I was moving away. She said she had to see me. When I got on the date I admitted to her it was a lie. We did not talk for a year.

Recently we started talking and went over her apt. We made out and talked a little about last year....she seemed fine.

This past Monday she went postal on me about this and how I seem so fake. Which I really like her and now she is making me work for this crap. I sent flowers which she likes but what is my next move if i want her in my life
Honestly You only come to us when you have no way out only 26 posts in 2 1/2 YEARS!! DAMN!!

Honestly, read MM THEN youll know what to do!!

How old are you N E way?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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bigshot

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Just next her mate, not worth the effort. She'll come running back
 
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