FSUDON
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I'm absolutely clueless about what happened with this girl I had been dating. Just some background about myself, I've been coming faithfully to this site for close to two years now but have never posted. I used to be a partier and all about getting with all kinds of girls. But last year, I was born-again and so my perspective changed. In other words, I'm not looking for girls to bring home with me the 1st night, but I only look to date Christian girls who have some future potential. As you can imagine, this narrows the playing field quite a bit.
Well, I met this great girl about a month back, good looking, lots of fun, and a strong Christian. We met at a "hoe down" (Southern thing) andhad a great time. We both had a very high interest level for each other right from the beginning. (She let me know that I was in her sights for 4 weeks before I introduced myself to her, not even aware of who she was!) I was C+F and just keeping everything light. Invited her out to a semi-formal I needed a date for and she was more than willing to go. So, that was the friday before the disastrous Gators vs. Seminoles football game. On the Sunday after church, she comes out with my friends and I to eat and sits right next to me, pretty much resting her leg on mine and showing all the right signs. We leave for Thanksgiving break, have about 2 or 3 good phone convos. and then we go to the semi-formal and have a GREAT TIME! We end up watching a movie back at her place. I give her a massage and we talk. We ended up having a nice little kissing session which I had no intention of with this girl and everything seemed perfect. We plan to see a movie on Thursday, but that didn't work out because of our schedules and she ended up coming over my place. We laughed, shared some more intimate moments, and she went on her happy way. I thought the next time I would see her would be at her home for New Year's.
Well, I wait until Sunday night to call her, we begin having a casual conversation, then all of a sudden she starts this whole thing about not being emotionall ready for what was happening and that we were gonna be led into a relationship of sin, and that she had a bad feeling when she left my apartment. She said she saw a look in my eye that scared her or something. Well, of course I didn't understand and was hurt that she would just say a bunch of things she probably didn't mean, and then pull something like that. Well, I cooled off for a couple of days, called her back and let her know that I understood where she could be coming from and I had no problem slowing down and being friends. That's what you're supposed to be in a Christian relationship at the very beginning anyway and I had not taken control of the situation as I should have. Well, I talked with her, joked with, and kept up the C+F. Waited till Sunday to call her again, kept up with the C+F and keeping everything light. Then I told her she should give me a call sometime over vacation. She told me that she didn't feel comfortable calling guys, even her "guy friends". So whatever, we got off the phone. I gave her a call this past Sunday, which was a week since I'd last called her. She hasn't called me back. Could she be pissed that I waited a week? I didn't think it was possible for a girl with such a high interest level to just go frozen cold if you kept up with the C+F and being a challenge. Should I ever call her again, or just say next? It just does not make any sense to me.
Well, I met this great girl about a month back, good looking, lots of fun, and a strong Christian. We met at a "hoe down" (Southern thing) andhad a great time. We both had a very high interest level for each other right from the beginning. (She let me know that I was in her sights for 4 weeks before I introduced myself to her, not even aware of who she was!) I was C+F and just keeping everything light. Invited her out to a semi-formal I needed a date for and she was more than willing to go. So, that was the friday before the disastrous Gators vs. Seminoles football game. On the Sunday after church, she comes out with my friends and I to eat and sits right next to me, pretty much resting her leg on mine and showing all the right signs. We leave for Thanksgiving break, have about 2 or 3 good phone convos. and then we go to the semi-formal and have a GREAT TIME! We end up watching a movie back at her place. I give her a massage and we talk. We ended up having a nice little kissing session which I had no intention of with this girl and everything seemed perfect. We plan to see a movie on Thursday, but that didn't work out because of our schedules and she ended up coming over my place. We laughed, shared some more intimate moments, and she went on her happy way. I thought the next time I would see her would be at her home for New Year's.
Well, I wait until Sunday night to call her, we begin having a casual conversation, then all of a sudden she starts this whole thing about not being emotionall ready for what was happening and that we were gonna be led into a relationship of sin, and that she had a bad feeling when she left my apartment. She said she saw a look in my eye that scared her or something. Well, of course I didn't understand and was hurt that she would just say a bunch of things she probably didn't mean, and then pull something like that. Well, I cooled off for a couple of days, called her back and let her know that I understood where she could be coming from and I had no problem slowing down and being friends. That's what you're supposed to be in a Christian relationship at the very beginning anyway and I had not taken control of the situation as I should have. Well, I talked with her, joked with, and kept up the C+F. Waited till Sunday to call her again, kept up with the C+F and keeping everything light. Then I told her she should give me a call sometime over vacation. She told me that she didn't feel comfortable calling guys, even her "guy friends". So whatever, we got off the phone. I gave her a call this past Sunday, which was a week since I'd last called her. She hasn't called me back. Could she be pissed that I waited a week? I didn't think it was possible for a girl with such a high interest level to just go frozen cold if you kept up with the C+F and being a challenge. Should I ever call her again, or just say next? It just does not make any sense to me.