cordoncordon
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Squirrels, it was over the ex, not because he didn't f her that night.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
=cordoncordon]Guys cmon. if you think this girl stopped seeing him because he didn't F her, you are wayyyyyyy overanalyzing. Hell, in my experience if you get a girl in bed, make out, touch each other, but don't F her? Her IL goes up 10 fold because I am "different". Only makes them want you more. I have never heard of a girl going on multiple dates with a guy, only to stop seeing him because he didn't F her the first night he had her in bed. If she likes him she likes him, not because he didn't F her one night. And if by some small chance this is the real reason? It's no one you want to be with anyway. She's a psycho.
My guess this is all because of the ex. Sometimes I think people on here way overanalyze what is really going on.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
i think i am going to print this off and stick it on my wallInterceptor said:He who doth hesitateth, doth masturbateth. Let ye see the sign of thy woman's arousal, and let ye take full advantage of thine Masculine Nature. For it is God's Gift to ye, Men, that he doth bringeth a lovely Lady to your bed chambers for you and she to enjoy and delight in your most intimate pleasures. And let it be known, oh Wise Men, that Ye bring no shame to you nor her if thou dost pursue that which by Divine Right is yours. But let ye be warned. For those who shall deny thy Lord's Gift, Ye shall be PUNISHED in the most furious way. For thou hast offended the Lord, and shall feel His Wrath unto thee.
So basically you're OK with being the next best alternate? Granted, you failed to hit it while she was hot, but she's essentially telling you you'll do if she can't get back with the ex. Have fun with that. I'm not saying don't get after it with her, but don't think for a second she'll ever be your LTR girl. You'll never be priority one.kingwilliam said:News:
She called me last night and asked how I was, what I'd been up to.......etc..
anyway, she said that the the ex-boyfriend thing just isn't gonna work....... She asked me what I was doing tommorrow night (tonight)
This is classic AFC rationalizing. As I posted earlier, de-sexualizing yourself doesn't separate you as a uniquely, sensitive guy who stands apart from "other guys", it only makes you more like the rest of the AFC herd who've bought the feminized mentality that they should identify themselves more with what women say they want in order to get laid. A woman is not going to want you anymore than when her bloodstream is swimming in hormones and endorphins due to physical attraction, and when you cool that off thinking she'll appreciate you more for delaying, she associates you with her own reasons for delaying sex - insecurity. Women delay sex, intentionally make guys wait for it and fillibuster to put a guy on hold because they're unsure of their conditions and the guy isn't their first priority. When a guy isn't confident enough in himself and his masculinity to take what she's willingly offering she makes this same connection.cordoncordon said:Hell, in my experience if you get a girl in bed, make out, touch each other, but don't F her? Her IL goes up 10 fold because I am "different". Only makes them want you more.
If that's what you think.cordoncordon said:Squirrels, it was over the ex, not because he didn't f her that night.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I'm with ya on this one.cordoncordon said:Guys cmon. if you think this girl stopped seeing him because he didn't F her, you are wayyyyyyy overanalyzing.
I found this out the "hard" way...lolVictory Unlimited said:But in a lot of cases (and I would argue "MOST"), sex, even GREAT SEX alone is not enough to keep ALL women coming back to you INDEFINITELY. This is why it is so important to have other great things of value about yourself that attracts a woman into your presence rather than JUST unbridled sexuality.