"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What happened with women and manners?

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SoldMySoul said:
I know why now I always try for a simple coffee date on the first meet!!!
I read somewhere, never tried it, that recommended ALWAYS show up for a first "date" for coffee, and arrange to MEET there.

Then arrive about ten minutes early, BUY YOUR OWN DRINK, and find a table. How she reacts when she arrives will tell you volumes.

You may find that very few girls will pass this "test," and that you'll have to go on quite a lot of first dates with a lot of women, but the one's that do pass this test will at least understand personal responsibility.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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SoldMySoul said:
Her online pictures looked pretty good
LOL LOL LOL LOL LOL LOL LOL

You made my day with your story!!! :crackup:

Sorry dude, but you are a moron!!!! :down:
 

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A Latina with a few kids should have a nice booty. How does she look?

Of course, I'm wondering why *anyone* would want to date a woman with 3 kids ...
 

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Commandante said:
LOL LOL LOL LOL LOL LOL LOL

You made my day with your story!!! :crackup:

Sorry dude, but you are a moron!!!! :down:
Did that make you feel better about yourself? I do that from time to time, call people idiots and morons online when I need to blow off steam. Then I started getting laid and wouldnt you know it, I wasnt so easily wound up anymore.

People should get rid of the aggressive tones in their posts...OP's story was awesome, and he shouldnt have to stoop from his standards (asking for seperate bills) because some hispanic 'lady' was acting all uncouth like.

LMAO btw at her attempting to sell home made candles in the middle of your date. That should have been the signal for you to say..."I dont see anymore candle lit dinners in our future, Maria"...and just get up and walk away on that awesome note.
 

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Some dates just fail. It's part of the game. There are people who just don't get it.

I've had people from the online scene that look NOTHING like their pics...i.e. using a pic from 7 years ago when they weren't 200#.

I have had women who have NO concept of how a "date" is supposed to work...had one girl meet me at a shop in the mall and somehow think it would be OK if we went over to the Verizon store to get her cellphone fixed. You know, "while we were in the area".

Never be afraid to just end the date. Tell her you appreciate her coming out, but this is really not working for you, so let's just wrap it up early. Don't elaborate on what's wrong...you'll either offend her or she'll go out of her way to make it up to you, which makes the night even more awkward.

It's an ego-buster to have a date not work out, but it's really not something you should take personally.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Semtex said:
Did that make you feel better about yourself? I do that from time to time, call people idiots and morons online when I need to blow off steam. Then I started getting laid and wouldnt you know it, I wasnt so easily wound up anymore.

People should get rid of the aggressive tones in their posts...OP's story was awesome, and he shouldnt have to stoop from his standards (asking for seperate bills) because some hispanic 'lady' was acting all uncouth like.

LMAO btw at her attempting to sell home made candles in the middle of your date. That should have been the signal for you to say..."I dont see anymore candle lit dinners in our future, Maria"...and just get up and walk away on that awesome note.

That would have been great to use about the candle light. This site used to have many cool guys on it. I appreciate you liked the story instead of calling me a moron.... which I do not see why I was labeled as such. I wanted to share a true story that these kind of WOMEN exist! I rarely come here for advice, but mostly to see what everyone is doing and to tell a few stories. The people calling me idiots are not out doing either and I would bet that I probably have more experience than they do.

I guess I am an idiot because I spent $10 on a pig at a LUNCH date, whereas a lot of guys could out spend that on drinks easy. So I accept sucker of the day.

As far as dating a woman with kids, I learned in my mid twenties it generally is not a good idea. Dating and getting them horizontal----TWO different things.

Besides, you cannot make my horrible lunch date up. It was worth the price of admission for the humor value.

squirrels said:
Some dates just fail. It's part of the game. There are people who just don't get it.

I've had people from the online scene that look NOTHING like their pics...i.e. using a pic from 7 years ago when they weren't 200#.


It's an ego-buster to have a date not work out, but it's really not something you should take personally.
In my case it was not an ego buster, it was a hard dose of reality that I was way out of here league. I generally go for the classy feminine type. I would be willing to bet the pics I saw were several years old too.
 

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This story is very funny thanx!! I used to wait tables and this brings back memorys.
 
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