"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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What happened to Jophil

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Scaramouche

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Dear HitHard,
Poor old JoPhil,contributed,fine wisdom to this site over a long period....To us Down Under he was,having lived some time in the States,able to help us bridge the communications gap,that so often confuses us... Some of his finest contributions were while he was battling Cancer,he went down with all guns firing...cheerful,right to the end his messages to this site were a beacon of inspiration to all of us,he never complained he just battled on....Vale Jophil,you showed us how a DJ dies,your thoughts will live on forever!
 

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Scaramouche said:
Dear HitHard,
Poor old JoPhil,contributed,fine wisdom to this site over a long period....To us Down Under he was,having lived some time in the States,able to help us bridge the communications gap,that so often confuses us... Some of his finest contributions were while he was battling Cancer,he went down with all guns firing...cheerful,right to the end his messages to this site were a beacon of inspiration to all of us,he never complained he just battled on....Vale Jophil,you showed us how a DJ dies,your thoughts will live on forever!
Well said Scaramouche. He really was the man! An engineer, a major in the AU Army and one fine fvckin human being.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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hithard

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Jophil was a great mentor and I greatly respected his input.

No one else die while I'm away.
 

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hithard said:
Jophil was a great mentor and I greatly respected his input.

No one else die while I'm away.
I can't promise anything, but I'll keep taking my Geritol...
 

The Grue

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I am having a drink right now to Jophil's memory, RIP brother.
 

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Jophil was a great mentor and supporter to me. Always a positive force on this forum. He is dearly missed. Hopefully his posts and wisdom live on through these boards and the DJ bible.
 

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Not to derail the topic in anyway but...

...where is Interceptor? His last post is one of his regulars but he just up and vanished....
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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MatureDJ

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I wonder if part of the internet social network meme is that when folks die, they get remembered by their forum peers at a certain level - like a man being remembered by his community at his funeral. And along with that, maybe folks now have to have an "internet will" so that the word gets out to their internet communities.
 

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I'd never pass an opportunity to pay my respects to the man. He made me stick around. He had a deep influence in my life.

Rest In Peace, you crazy diamond.
 

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Jophill opened my eyes to the crazies......:eek:
 

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Ya know guys. Read his posts and threads. The man really was worldly and in my opinion, a genius. He'd been around life's block so to speak. We had been talking right before he passed. Was planning on a trip to the US to visit me. I wish that would have happened. He helped me so much and I was flattered that he thought enough of me to make the trip. What a guy!
 

Scaramouche

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Dear 5String,
"If you are going to have sex with granny cougar's, wear a condom so you don't catch osteoporosis.....Jophil28"...Tres Drole
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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