"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
What gold nugget did you wish you'd known at 17
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Other people are so worried what you and everybody else thinks that they are entirely too self absorbed to fixate on you. They are already fixated on themselves.
Think "Blurry Face" by 21 Pilots.
Don't worry too much about grades. Focus on girls, your height, your looks, and girls. Get experience so you can know how tricky people are. Marry young if you want to get married.
Don't focus on money too much. It will easily come later. Focus on girls. It is much easier to meet, date, and sleep with girls when you are younger than when you are older. They don't care about money when you are older.
Even if they do, you are a sucker because they slept with all the guys with no money when they were younger.
RichardTheFrog
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How exactly does one "focus" on their height?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
guru1000
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... if you didnt tend to your looks, and thus don't age well. Any DJ who tends to his money and looks as he ages will find his SMV increasing with age.
The good news is if you focused only on money and denied your physicality as you got older, then you have money to fix your looks if you didn't age well.
I can make any mature man (or any man for that matter) into a beast if he were willing.
wifehunter
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Do your own interest regardless general morality and other people needs but give the impression that you are behaving as expected.
Make me a beast then tiger
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
LOL youu wouldn't believe the crappie I've heard from a my teachers feministfriend that came into my class to teach us.
Not gonna go into detail, thanks for the nugget
In other words do what I want? Correct me if I'm wrong..
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Do what you is your best interest but dont let it be seeing because its not morally acceptable, reframe it into pretending you are doing it for someone else benefit or any morally acceptable choice.
Do what you have to do but make it seem like you live and obey the rules.
Mike32ct
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Avoid becoming a target of (negative) gossip by keeping your mouth shut. Always assume that nobody can keep a secret. You'll be right 99.99 percent of the time.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
QuadDeuces
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This this this
I would tell my teenage self to not be too opinionated, don't tell too much about yourself don't tell too much about others, talk less, do more.
Be a blank projector screen for others to project themselves on.
People never know the real you, they only know what parts of themselves they project onto you.
Being a silent mirror is very seductive.
Korrupt
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Mysterious vibe, I like.
Mike32ct
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Both men and women gossip, a lot. We already discussed the importance of not leaking personal stuff about yourself. Also, if someone tells you something in confidence, keep it that way. Be that extremely rare person who keeps things quiet, and people will feel comfortable telling you all kinds of things.
More importantly, don't talk shyte about other people, not matter how much you dislike them. People will really respect you when you avoid speaking ill of others. Also be careful about people trying to BAIT you into talking shyte about others. This is a common (fictitious) scenario...
Gossiper: Mike32ct is a jerk, don't you think?
You: yeah kinda
Gossiper: <Tells everybody> I never said anything bad about Mike. I like him, but Joji told me that he's a jerk.
TDLR: When people try to bait you into leaking info about yourself, or leaking secrets or talking shyte about others, don't take the bait.
(I work in an office, so I learned how nasty gossipers can be.)
The things you think are going to change your life, won't.
The six-pack. Six figures in the bank. Mastering new hobbies.
You think you're going to break through, that there's some sort of paradigm shift on the other side of your goals. But there isn't.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.