"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
What gold nugget did you wish you'd known at 17
- Thread starter Joji
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
BeExcellent
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Dec 16, 2015
- Messages
- 5,416
- Reaction score
- 7,941
- Age
- 57
Other people are so worried what you and everybody else thinks that they are entirely too self absorbed to fixate on you. They are already fixated on themselves.
Think "Blurry Face" by 21 Pilots.
Don't worry too much about grades. Focus on girls, your height, your looks, and girls. Get experience so you can know how tricky people are. Marry young if you want to get married.
Don't focus on money too much. It will easily come later. Focus on girls. It is much easier to meet, date, and sleep with girls when you are younger than when you are older. They don't care about money when you are older.
Even if they do, you are a sucker because they slept with all the guys with no money when they were younger.
RichardTheFrog
Banned
How exactly does one "focus" on their height?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
guru1000
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Sep 20, 2007
- Messages
- 5,299
- Reaction score
- 4,338
... if you didnt tend to your looks, and thus don't age well. Any DJ who tends to his money and looks as he ages will find his SMV increasing with age.
The good news is if you focused only on money and denied your physicality as you got older, then you have money to fix your looks if you didn't age well.
I can make any mature man (or any man for that matter) into a beast if he were willing.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
Who Dares Win
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jan 16, 2012
- Messages
- 7,427
- Reaction score
- 5,805
Do your own interest regardless general morality and other people needs but give the impression that you are behaving as expected.
Make me a beast then tiger
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
LOL youu wouldn't believe the crappie I've heard from a my teachers feministfriend that came into my class to teach us.
Not gonna go into detail, thanks for the nugget
In other words do what I want? Correct me if I'm wrong..
Who Dares Win
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jan 16, 2012
- Messages
- 7,427
- Reaction score
- 5,805
Do what you is your best interest but dont let it be seeing because its not morally acceptable, reframe it into pretending you are doing it for someone else benefit or any morally acceptable choice.
Do what you have to do but make it seem like you live and obey the rules.
Mike32ct
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Oct 22, 2007
- Messages
- 8,398
- Reaction score
- 5,149
Avoid becoming a target of (negative) gossip by keeping your mouth shut. Always assume that nobody can keep a secret. You'll be right 99.99 percent of the time.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
QuadDeuces
Master Don Juan
This this this
I would tell my teenage self to not be too opinionated, don't tell too much about yourself don't tell too much about others, talk less, do more.
Be a blank projector screen for others to project themselves on.
People never know the real you, they only know what parts of themselves they project onto you.
Being a silent mirror is very seductive.
Korrupt
Banned
Mysterious vibe, I like.
Mike32ct
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Oct 22, 2007
- Messages
- 8,398
- Reaction score
- 5,149
Both men and women gossip, a lot. We already discussed the importance of not leaking personal stuff about yourself. Also, if someone tells you something in confidence, keep it that way. Be that extremely rare person who keeps things quiet, and people will feel comfortable telling you all kinds of things.
More importantly, don't talk shyte about other people, not matter how much you dislike them. People will really respect you when you avoid speaking ill of others. Also be careful about people trying to BAIT you into talking shyte about others. This is a common (fictitious) scenario...
Gossiper: Mike32ct is a jerk, don't you think?
You: yeah kinda
Gossiper: <Tells everybody> I never said anything bad about Mike. I like him, but Joji told me that he's a jerk.
TDLR: When people try to bait you into leaking info about yourself, or leaking secrets or talking shyte about others, don't take the bait.
(I work in an office, so I learned how nasty gossipers can be.)
The things you think are going to change your life, won't.
The six-pack. Six figures in the bank. Mastering new hobbies.
You think you're going to break through, that there's some sort of paradigm shift on the other side of your goals. But there isn't.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.