"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
What gives you courage DJ's???
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Learn how to shrug your shoulders and just accept some things are beyond your control. As long as they don't cause you serious harm, you can move on and forget about it.
When you think like this, you will be able to face many of the things you once feared.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
MisterNigma
Don Juan
The other two guys gave excellent answers. For me though, it's a bit different at this point.oscarxp25 said:
Whenever I'm out at a bar, club, whatever, I feel very angry with myself if I fail to approach.
Bottom line, whatever anxiety you feel about approaching a girl is nothing compared to the feelings of regret you get later for not approaching. So now days, I make cold approaches as much as humanly possible (granted I have pretty high standards).
Ask youself this question - What's the worst that can happen?
Good Luck,
-E.Nigma
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
You don't hit it off which makes you free to approach another woman, I can live with that!MisterNigma said:
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
MisterNigma
Don Juan
Then again, I'm a realist, not an optimist.
-E.Nigma
Maximus Rex
Banned
oscarxp25 said:
"Rejection is better than regret." Pook
I find that having the right mind set makes courage almost unnecessary.
Jariel explained the equation. Its not that big a deal. You are just saying hi. Its not like that when you approach a woman that it is the only chance you are ever going to get to meet a babe. You're just going to see if she is cool enough to hang with you.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Sounds more like a pessimist to me, to each his own...MisterNigma said:
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Snow Plowman
Master Don Juan
So what really gives me a courage to not care is a few things.
1. I don't care about rejection because if you were to approach her differently you'd get her.
2. Its about me and me having fun. Me gaining her attraction and getting her laughing is what makes it fun for me. I'm just here talking and I don't care if she responds to me or not I am entertained with just talking saying sh!t towards her. (This is why some people can't believe I sing the gayest songs infront of girls its really just so I can get a kick out of it and if its funny to them they can laugh too.)
3. The most important one is "She doesn't fuvking know me" I've had countless people who've got to know me and loved me so when I'm talking to strangers I don't care because I already know what I'm about and I already know my life is how I want it to be.
I think the last one was very powerful and works for me because of my standards of what is cool is different than society. I don't care about money. (I could be piss poor I wouldn't care) I don't care about looking good or having a great job, house, etc. All I care about is having as much fun before you die. This is why I think I always have this strong confidence because I already know i'm living my life and I'm having more fun than many people in this world who are rich and have cars, etc.
So usually when I go in I don't care what happens I just want to have fun. An usually it always opens and usually always gets attraction. (Doesn't mean I always get the lay) Since I've become aligned with this I've had girls approach me, more girls are eyeing me and overall haven't got seriously blown out in awhile.
MisterNigma
Don Juan
Now why be so negative? Ok, so you got me, I'm a pessimistic realistFrancisco d'Anconia said:
-E.Nigma
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
I ain't even gonna touch that one...MisterNigma said:...Ok, so you got me, I'm a pessimistic realist
-E.Nigma
MisterNigma
Don Juan
See, now that's a flawed statement. If you "din't want to touch" the subject you shouldn't have replied.Francisco d'Anconia said:I ain't even gonna touch that one...
You're a compulsive poster. I know, how it feels. There should really be a Poster's Anonymous.
-E.Nigma
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
I think of myself as opinionated, thank you....MisterNigma said:
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
MisterNigma
Don Juan
Whatever helps you sleep at night. I do expect to see you at the bext PA meeting though.:yes:Francisco d'Anconia said:I think of myself as opinionated, thank you....
-E.Nigma
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
Naw I'm just kidding (maybe) usually confidence that girls are just as much interested in me, if not more so, as I am in them. With that thought in my mind, I'm doing myself a diservice by not going over.