"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What girls think.........

Fabrizio

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well, i got a question:

do you think girls are turned off from a guy, i mean not by looks, but by who he hangs out with and such, like if one hangs out with gang members, wears gang colors, and is known for gangbanging. will girls be like oh get away from him hes bad or stuff like that? what about that and also if the person is a known marijuana user?

does that effect a girls' attraction towards a person?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Completely, no matter what you're like as a person first impressions are ALWAYS visual, one person seeing another. Can you change this impression? Of course. But by being in a gang, smoking weed n all that, people will always stereotype you and some girls will have nothing to do with you, no matter what.
 

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Yes, most girls will be influenced by your reputation and the types of people you hang out with. Of course, whether that influence is positive or negative depends on the girl you're trying to attract. If you're going for the valedictorian straight-edge chick who goes to church every Sunday, then being a pot smoking gang member will be a turn-off. If you're going for a ghetto slut, then it will probably work in your favor.
 

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well i thought girls liked that "bad as s attitude"

prably just to a certain extent right?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Originally posted by Fabrizio
well i thought girls liked that "bad as s attitude"

prably just to a certain extent right?
You got it. Let's say the tables were turned and it turns out that guys like "bad girls." Would you want a crack *****? Or just a girl who's relaxed and likes to try new things, with a conscience of course.

I think the latter wins.
 

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i guess i'm screwed then.
afk, you talked about turning tables, then you asked if i would like a crack *****, well i aint a crackhead, so i think thats irrelevent. plus, its not like i'm al capone, i dont go around stabbing or killing everyone that looks at me wrong, it's just all i know, so dont be too strong.
 

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You are who you hang out with, homey.
 

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Originally posted by Fabrizio
i guess i'm screwed then.
afk, you talked about turning tables, then you asked if i would like a crack *****, well i aint a crackhead, so i think thats irrelevent. plus, its not like i'm al capone, i dont go around stabbing or killing everyone that looks at me wrong, it's just all i know, so dont be too strong.
I'm just exaggerating dude. Usually I exaggerate to scare the living sh1t outta people.

But yeah...you're screwed.













But in which way? dum dum duuummm:eek: :p
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by Fabrizio
well i thought girls liked that "bad as s attitude"

prably just to a certain extent right?
depends on the girls you want to attract, probably if you want to attract some type of gangsta girl she wont mind, but if you want to go to attract nice good rich church preppy girls, the fact alone that you might smoke weed will turn them away from you.
 

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Originally posted by undesputable
depends on the girls you want to attract, probably if you want to attract some type of gangsta girl she wont mind, but if you want to go to attract nice good rich church preppy girls, the fact alone that you might smoke weed will turn them away from you.
Actually, this may not be entirely true. If have SEEN nice, preppy type girls wanting to get with gangsta type guys. Even ones that are in jail or on drugs and all. This may be just to piss daddy off or it is exiting for them in one way or another. They represent the ultimate badboy that they can't help being attracted to. The fact is: No matter what you are like, some girls will be attracted, and some won't.
 
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