"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What Game / PUA material is relevant for 2017?

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Hey DJs,

It's been a few months since I've last been on here. I've been making efforts to better myself. I've dropped just shy of 25 pounds, been applying for better jobs and working on my skills and feel the most positive I've felt about myself in a really long time. I am putting myself as the center.

I've realized that I can only read and watch so much, but it will all be for nought if I don't actually practice this **** in the real world.

I have the Mystery Method video archive and The Game by Neil Strauss. I both being referenced in Rational Male and other game blogs (the other few I've picked over so far). But they both seem... dated.
Are they still relevant these days? Are there better game blogs or threads that I would be better served investing my time into? Or am I just over analyzing all of this **** like a beta fool?

Thanks,
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You know what? I just realized I should just test a bunch of em myself and see what does and doesn't work.
 

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The reason why PUA/Game blogs, podcasts, websites, etc. seem "dated" is because most of them are aimed at achieving success with women "for THAT particular moment in time".

Tricks, tips, and tactics focused primarily on getting women always pale in significance compared to embarking on a lifelong STRATEGY to becoming a better MAN overall.

V.U.
 

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Yes and no. Generally I m on VUs squad. Improve yourself because one day you will need it. I date from the age of the puas and other dinosaurs. Some of it was hokey crap some of it never stopped working. Modified mystery method is still a great framework for general approaches. You don't have to be a monk while you're improving yourself. Men like to get it wet. Even if they were total slvts if you've bagged four woman in a year you can't feel completely hopeless about your chances with girls. Just Google on so suave and book. You'll find plenty recommended here. For blogs Chateau heartiste is one of my favorites.

As a quick jumpstart I would say
- find some cool local places and become a decent tipping regular
- study body language basics
- practice gentle teasing and dealing with s*** tests
- don't message much
- if it's an OLD chick double book. To save yourself from flakes.

Just that will put you ahead of 50 % of the guys out there. And most importantly keep getting out there and practicing. If you've had 10 dates in the last month and 11th turns out to be a decent girl who's a hottie you're not going to be nervous
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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