"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What exactly is a "deep guy"?

diplomatic_lies

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So I hear this a lot - "He's such a deep guy!"

Now I know what shallow dude is (I'm one), and I know deep is the opposite of shallow, but what exactly is a deep guy? Is it someone who sleeps with fat chicks who have nice personalities? Someone who writes love poems and cry when they watch Titanic?

So...anyone care to tell me what being deep is? Is it just another word for being gay, or am I missing something here?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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artsy- fartsy-coffee shop poetry- pseudo revolutionary- skinny-thrift shop clothes wearing-non working out-art majoring (nothing wrong with that) or sociology majoring-i write my own songs on my guitar type of dude....

I usually don't care or put too much attention on how people describe themselves or others....actions are more important....

this " deep " dude can be a wolf in a sheeps clothing trying to hook up with chicks or he is generally interested in doing "deep" stuff because he likes it.

On a sidenote, women who describe themselves as " strong, independent, agressive women looking for a real man " or somewhere along the lines of that are to be avoided. "Wild", "love to go out clubbing/partying", too.

To answer your question, probably just some dude who is able to express his feelings and emotions via art, poetry, music,writing, and in conversation.
 

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You're asking males but my definition of a deep guy is:

One that has a lot more layers to him, intelligent but complicated, mysterious . . . looks to be in deep thought often . . . you would never find him truly relaxed . . . there's a lot going on beneath the surface that no-one will ever know about . . . nor will he speak about to some chick . . . he has little time for 'nonsense' and the usual B.S. in society . . .

I have no idea what a girl thinks a deep guy is.

The Muscly Jerk
 

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There is no such thing as a "shallow" guy. This is a term drawn from a feminine social convention used to shame men for acting in their own best interests. Every characteristic a woman would consider 'shallow' is a quality that either takes them off a pedestal or puts a man OVERTLY into a position of sexual selection.

Stop using the word "shallow", you only parrot what women want you to think and identify with their setting of the frame.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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PRMoon

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Honestly, most of the time where I've been called "Deep" before by a girl (and she wasn't talking about sex:p ) whas when I was philosophisng about a concept or current events, taken from more then one different angle.

Unfortunatly these people often aren't very smart themselves so they don't know if you actually know what you're talking about or are blowing somke up their a$$. I stopped having these converstations with people who I'm not going to see more then once or for one evening because it's wasted on them anyways.
 

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I'm a moderate guy? lol
 

The Forms

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I think a "deep" guy is a guy who just knows how to listen. You listen, and then you show that you were listening by reiterating what she just said in different words, and cleaning up whatever concept it was she was trying to convey a little. So it's just basic listening skills that not enough people possess. Which is cool for all the former AFC's around here, because that's the one skill you learned while you were "just friends" with girls.

OR. . .
It could also mean that you take concepts and think about them more than the average person (i.e. her) and you blow her mind when you talk about it. You lead her to conclusions that she didn't know existed, or open her up to new avenues of knowledge she didn't know where there

I figure its one of those two things.
 
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