"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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What exactly is a "dating coach"?

MatureDJ

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I've been reading a bunch of stuff on in the 'net about 30-something women hiring a "dating coach". Is this merely someone who gives women rational advice on how to attract and keep men interested - mainly by telling the women not to be so picky (since that is the easiest way to get and keep a man!)

As for me, it seems to be money down a rathole, but I guess for women, it's either that or another pair of shoes ...
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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What exactly is a "dating coach"?... A professional Yenta. Oi Vey!
 

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Dear MDJ,
seems,for them a very good Idea....Older Women in particular,have such unrealistic expectations,it could only be a good thing all round.
 

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No sh1t, there's a 40 year old 6 in town that thinks she's a 25 yr old 8... wonders why she can't find "the one". BUT not even women can talk sense into some women
 

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Dear Sod Buster,
Though I suppose,trudging along behind that old Horse gives you plenty of time to think as you break the Virgin soil....Don't give it a moments more thought,women such as you describe,are not worth a Tinkers Toss...concentrate more on ploughing 35 year old 8's that think they are sixes.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I don't know what a dating coach is, but for some reason I have a feeling they would be telling women things that are very similar to what guys are told here:
Be hard to get, show indifference, don't be overeager, don't give in too easily, show you have options, be a challenge, etc.

Not saying that would be good advice, of course. Probably the best thing a girl can do is let the guy know she likes him and most men will be attracted to that.
 

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MatureDJ said:
Is this merely someone who gives women rational advice on how to attract and keep men interested - mainly by telling the women not to be so picky (since that is the easiest way to get and keep a man!)
Getting a man interested is rarely the problem. They teach them how to not raise red flags that scare men away, e.g. talking LTR, babies on the first date.
 

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Yahooey said:
They teach them how to not raise red flags that scare men away, e.g. talking LTR, babies on the first date.
Again, pretty much the same thing that they tell guys here.
 

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dankane said:
Mystery Method for Women

BJ training.
lol.

Dating coaches eh? I would like to sit in on a conversation.

It's funny how so many people are wanting to be with another person -- yet we are supposed to feign disconnect, feign disconcern, etc, etc -- honesty is the way of the male or female chump and spits out the romance flame...odd isn't it..Why I wonder?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Buddha_Mind said:
It's funny how so many people are wanting to be with another person -- yet we are supposed to feign disconnect, feign disconcern, etc, etc -- honesty is the way of the male or female chump and spits out the romance flame...odd isn't it..Why I wonder?
It is kind of funny, isn't it? But being overeager can imply that you are not a high value person with options.

Really, feigning disinterest is just a technique, playing the odds. There have been plenty of cases where guys have expressed interest and the girl has been absolutely delighted.
 

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I only persue what shows interest. I don't feel like wasting my time to go after someone who i'm not sure gives a crap. I do not love "the chase" in the least.
 

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mrRuckus said:
I only persue what shows interest. I don't feel like wasting my time to go after someone who i'm not sure gives a crap. I do not love "the chase" in the least.
Yes man.

And playing the odds too -- tonight I was out and just trying to talk to many women -- if one is giving you too much trouble, well **** it, there's another.
 

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A dating coach: Well, ummmmm a coach who likes to go on dates. No? lol
 

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Pretty brutal one on MTV...a guy who gives women HE!! He tells them from a mans point of view. Not much for us to see,but maybe WOMEN will wake up
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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