"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What exactly does this mean?

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I had a girl tell me that I was sweet not too long ago. It's funny since I haven't done a damn thing that could be considered sweet.

This is how the conversation went, I don't remember much, but I'll try to be clear:

Me: *says something C&F*
Her: Hahaha! You're funny. No, not funny, sweet.
Me: Eh...

That caught me off surprise. I wasn't expecting something like this and I wasn't adequately prepared to handle it. So I just played it off as nothing. So anyone have any idea what this mean? How can I handle this? I don't act AFC around her and don't shower her with attention, I only give her small doses. I work with her by the way.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Gangster Of Love

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Originally posted by HammerSmashedFace
I had a girl tell me that I was sweet not too long ago. It's funny since I haven't done a damn thing that could be considered sweet.

This is how the conversation went, I don't remember much, but I'll try to be clear:

Me: *says something C&F*
Her: Hahaha! You're funny. No, not funny, sweet.
Me: Eh...

Translation: "I see you like my cute brother, but not as a sexual being that gets my juices flowin'."

Women respond to C&F in a "You're a jerk, yet I find you intriguing and interesting." You probably said something goofy.
 

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If a chick ever says you're sweet or cute, you are not seen as attractive.

Patrick Bateman had the best reply for this in American Psycho (shame he didn't actually say it)

"No I'm not. I'm a fvcking psycopath!"
 

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Shouldn't really matter. I wouldn't worry too much about it.

But, it depends on how she said it. It could just be a **** test.

Basically, you need to reverse the frame on her. I ALWAYS do exactly what she just said to girls. I say **** like "aww... you're sooo adorable!" whenever they're trying to bust on me.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Re: Re: What exactly does this mean?

Originally posted by Gangster Of Love


Women respond to C&F in a "You're a jerk, yet I find you intriguing and interesting." You probably said something goofy.

My gf says I'm 'mean' throughout every bone in my body :)

me: Yet you keep coming back for more
her: *grimace* So? *hugs me*
 

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Haven't you ever wondered when a hot handsome guy walks past and a chick would comment "Oh.... he's cute.."

You wonder to yourself... he is not cute!!!!!

This is just ********...

In your situation, this chick likes you and want to convey that to you without sounding like a $lut...
 

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I find it funny, you're a Cannibal Corpse fan, and a girl thinks your sweet :D
 
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Tempest: That's what I was thinking. I just didn't catch on to this one and froze up. I've reversed the frame on her many times. But the most memorable time was when she was talking to this chick from the other store (it's a coffee shop chain, not Starbucks). I picked up and the conversation went something like this:

Me: Hello?
Other chick: Hi can I speak to [insert name of girl here]
Me: Sure, hey [insert name of girl here] you've got a call.
Other chick: Was that your boyfriend? (I assumed she said something like this).
Target girl: Hello? ... He is not my boyfriend!! (not in a pissed off way, it was kind of like when you get caught for doing something bad).

They talked for a couple of minutes and then hung up. She then came over and started talking to me.

Target: She thought you were my boyfriend.
Me: Ha! You should've told her that you're not into guys and then waited a couple of seconds to let it sink in. Then you should've asked for her number.
Target: Hahahaha!!! OMG you're funny!

Twas a fine moment indeed. I had this stupid grin on my face for the rest of the day.

MacDiddy: ********... That's possible too. I don't know if I've set up enough attraction yet however. But who knows? Women are ****ed up in the head.

TheRelic: Yeah I know dude! :D
If things don't go my way, I'll have to go to one of CC's songs for advise on women... Mwahahahaha!!!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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