"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What exactly does this mean?

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I had a girl tell me that I was sweet not too long ago. It's funny since I haven't done a damn thing that could be considered sweet.

This is how the conversation went, I don't remember much, but I'll try to be clear:

Me: *says something C&F*
Her: Hahaha! You're funny. No, not funny, sweet.
Me: Eh...

That caught me off surprise. I wasn't expecting something like this and I wasn't adequately prepared to handle it. So I just played it off as nothing. So anyone have any idea what this mean? How can I handle this? I don't act AFC around her and don't shower her with attention, I only give her small doses. I work with her by the way.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Originally posted by HammerSmashedFace
I had a girl tell me that I was sweet not too long ago. It's funny since I haven't done a damn thing that could be considered sweet.

This is how the conversation went, I don't remember much, but I'll try to be clear:

Me: *says something C&F*
Her: Hahaha! You're funny. No, not funny, sweet.
Me: Eh...

Translation: "I see you like my cute brother, but not as a sexual being that gets my juices flowin'."

Women respond to C&F in a "You're a jerk, yet I find you intriguing and interesting." You probably said something goofy.
 

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If a chick ever says you're sweet or cute, you are not seen as attractive.

Patrick Bateman had the best reply for this in American Psycho (shame he didn't actually say it)

"No I'm not. I'm a fvcking psycopath!"
 

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Shouldn't really matter. I wouldn't worry too much about it.

But, it depends on how she said it. It could just be a **** test.

Basically, you need to reverse the frame on her. I ALWAYS do exactly what she just said to girls. I say **** like "aww... you're sooo adorable!" whenever they're trying to bust on me.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Re: Re: What exactly does this mean?

Originally posted by Gangster Of Love


Women respond to C&F in a "You're a jerk, yet I find you intriguing and interesting." You probably said something goofy.

My gf says I'm 'mean' throughout every bone in my body :)

me: Yet you keep coming back for more
her: *grimace* So? *hugs me*
 

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Haven't you ever wondered when a hot handsome guy walks past and a chick would comment "Oh.... he's cute.."

You wonder to yourself... he is not cute!!!!!

This is just ********...

In your situation, this chick likes you and want to convey that to you without sounding like a $lut...
 

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I find it funny, you're a Cannibal Corpse fan, and a girl thinks your sweet :D
 
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Tempest: That's what I was thinking. I just didn't catch on to this one and froze up. I've reversed the frame on her many times. But the most memorable time was when she was talking to this chick from the other store (it's a coffee shop chain, not Starbucks). I picked up and the conversation went something like this:

Me: Hello?
Other chick: Hi can I speak to [insert name of girl here]
Me: Sure, hey [insert name of girl here] you've got a call.
Other chick: Was that your boyfriend? (I assumed she said something like this).
Target girl: Hello? ... He is not my boyfriend!! (not in a pissed off way, it was kind of like when you get caught for doing something bad).

They talked for a couple of minutes and then hung up. She then came over and started talking to me.

Target: She thought you were my boyfriend.
Me: Ha! You should've told her that you're not into guys and then waited a couple of seconds to let it sink in. Then you should've asked for her number.
Target: Hahahaha!!! OMG you're funny!

Twas a fine moment indeed. I had this stupid grin on my face for the rest of the day.

MacDiddy: ********... That's possible too. I don't know if I've set up enough attraction yet however. But who knows? Women are ****ed up in the head.

TheRelic: Yeah I know dude! :D
If things don't go my way, I'll have to go to one of CC's songs for advise on women... Mwahahahaha!!!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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