Even a $40 silver Timex works.Originally posted by BigBen69:
its really important to have a nice watch.
and it must not always be a 230 bucks watch. a swatch irony for 80 bucks can do it too
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Half man, half animal.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Even a $40 silver Timex works.Originally posted by BigBen69:
its really important to have a nice watch.
and it must not always be a 230 bucks watch. a swatch irony for 80 bucks can do it too
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Of course.Originally posted by crazykid:What about a sweet $20 Swiss watch? My poor ass goes to Value City and Target, but still manages to look sweet. The watch is stainless steel too.
Good idea. I always carry a pen in my pocket anyway; I'll have to try that.Originally posted by SquirrelScammer:
you can get a nice leather coat from oldnavy.com for just $100. Also, try to get a nice silver pen and attatch it to your right pocket. Works 2 ways, looks nice and convienant for writing down all the chick's numbers
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Out of curiousity, how tall are you? I'm 5'5" and I find that cowboy boots make me look like I'm trying to compensate for my height.Originally posted by the graphics guy:
As for footwear, my trademark is cowboy boots, whether with jeans or an Armani suit or a tux (black please!) It's not for everybody, but it works for me--even in a Manhattan nightclub!
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I was thinking of upgrading my attire for the dance clubs and I was wondering why you would wear a suit without a tie? Aren't we trying to draw attention to ourselves and if it's overdressing wouldn't a sports jacket be more appropiate?Originally posted by the graphics guy:
...for instance I have done the suit thing in the club, no tie of couse
Originally posted by Faun:
Like good looks, a good wardrobe won't necessarily get you far with a woman, but it WILL get you more auditions (and it's a nice little confidence booster). When you look good, you feel good.
(and yes, I am a straight man; I just happen to know about fashion)
Essential Items for Every DJ's Wardrobe:
1. A brown leather belt and a black leather belt. Simple leather belts are classy and reasonably priced. Go for the ones with the silver buckles, rather than the gold; silver is elegant and goes with anything. Whenever you wear a pair of pants with belt loops, you need to wear a belt. When choosing which belt to wear, it should be in the same general color scheme as your shoes.
2. A pair of clean jeans (with no holes) that fit well. Too big and you'll look like you're 5 years old. Too small and you'll look like the Pillsbury Dough Boy. The right length jeans should just cover the laces of your shoes when you're standing up straight. You should ALWAYS wear a belt with jeans.
3. A pair of black or brown casual dress shoes or boots. Sneakers may be comfortable, but you can't wear them all the time. Giving a pair of shoes a quick rubdown with a cloth at the end of the day can keep them looking shiny and new and is a lot easier and faster than polishing.
4. A black turtleneck. A black turtleneck can go with jeans for a casual look or khakis for a more chic look. And you can't go wrong with black (unless you have dandruff, in which case you should try a dandruff shampoo).
5. A pair of clean, pressed/ironed khakis or other nice pants (dressier than jeans, but not as nice as dress pants - I personally don't wear khakis). If you don't have time to iron, a quick fix to get out wrinkles: hang the khakis on a hanger in the bathroom while you take a hot shower.
6. A nice watch. Either silver or gold. I prefer silver because it's more refined and understated. Even a $40 silver Timex watch will look good. Others on the forum might disagree with me, but wearing a watch shows that you have some order in your life and that your time is valuable. If a woman sees that your time isn't valuable to you, why would it be valuable to her?
7 & 8. A button-down dress shirt and tie. You can't go wrong with a white dress shirt. You can either have a patterned tie and solid shirt or a solid shirt and a patterned tie. Having both patterned is too visually distracting and having both solid is boring, unless they're shades of the same color (like what Regis Philbin wears). If the tie and shirt are shades of the same color (as well as the jacket if you're wearing a jacket), it's a very classy look.
9. A pair of dressy black pants. Wear ONLY with black shoes. Sneakers don't work. Pair this with a black turtleneck and you're ready to hit the town. Like the khakis: don't wear with wrinkles.
10. A navy blazer or a sports jacket. With a pair of khakis, a button-down shirt or colored t-shirt, and nice shoes, a blazer or sports jacket can take you from casual to slightly dressy. I have a brown velour sports jacket (men wear velour; women wear velvet) that the ladies like to touch 'cause it's so soft. And you know what happens after the ladies start touching your clothes.![]()
11. A leather jacket. Brown or black, a leather jacket delivers the message that you know how to dress. A leather jacket doesn't have to be expensive; you can get one at some of the cheaper clothing stores like Target and Walmart (for those in the US) for less than $100. Avoid fake leather, as it just looks cheap and tacky.
12. Scent. While clothes appeal to the visual sense, a good cologne or aftershave appeals to the olfactory sense (smell). For the DJ on a budget, I recommend Jovan musk, an earthy cologne with a nice scent and a reasonable price. I've also had good experiences with Gravity (comes in both a cologne and an aftershave); it smells good and very few women can recognize it because it's not as common as some of the other colognes/aftershaves. If you have a little more to spend, I highly recommend Wings for Men (an aftershave); my aunt (who works at a perfume/cologne counter) gave me a bottle of it for my birthday. It's a light, airy scent, and I've gotten some nice compliments on it.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.