"Are you doing anything later?" or "What are you about to do now?"
What do these questions usually mean to you?
Now I might sound foolish for asking a question like this because the way it is said to someone makes a difference (and I'm sure something along these lines gets asked all the time), but I thought I should at least ask and clear some stuff up instead of miss out on some possible opportunities. I figure I should put the question into situational context (in my cases).
Often when I am out on a weekend I will talk to the occasional girl here and there. It may be at/outside the bars or at a party. So let's say I encounter a girl I'm mildly acquainted with, and we get into small talk and all that jazz.
So at some point she may ask who I'm with. I will say I'm not with anybody in particular, just with a friend here and there. Eventually I may get asked "so what are you about to do" or "what are you doing later?" My usual response to this is along the lines of "I'm not sure yet, I'm trying to find out if anything's going on." I try to at least give the impression that I'm not going to be doing nothing. Depending on who it is, they may just tell me to give them a call if I do find something. If I do call, it usually results in no answer or they are going to bed, etc. Which, at 2-3am I expect of most people.
Now I could take that question as suggestive and respond with something such as "well hopefully getting to know you better," but the question never seems as obvious as I want to think it is. Anyways, any input would be appreciated. Thanks.
What do these questions usually mean to you?
Now I might sound foolish for asking a question like this because the way it is said to someone makes a difference (and I'm sure something along these lines gets asked all the time), but I thought I should at least ask and clear some stuff up instead of miss out on some possible opportunities. I figure I should put the question into situational context (in my cases).
Often when I am out on a weekend I will talk to the occasional girl here and there. It may be at/outside the bars or at a party. So let's say I encounter a girl I'm mildly acquainted with, and we get into small talk and all that jazz.
So at some point she may ask who I'm with. I will say I'm not with anybody in particular, just with a friend here and there. Eventually I may get asked "so what are you about to do" or "what are you doing later?" My usual response to this is along the lines of "I'm not sure yet, I'm trying to find out if anything's going on." I try to at least give the impression that I'm not going to be doing nothing. Depending on who it is, they may just tell me to give them a call if I do find something. If I do call, it usually results in no answer or they are going to bed, etc. Which, at 2-3am I expect of most people.
Now I could take that question as suggestive and respond with something such as "well hopefully getting to know you better," but the question never seems as obvious as I want to think it is. Anyways, any input would be appreciated. Thanks.
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