"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Boneman

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Ok. Heres the deal. A girl i know who works in the same biulding as me and i have sort of struck up a friendship over the last few months or so. I actually met her like a year ago, but had some pretty awkward conversations that i forced and thought things were going nowhere.

However in the last month i have noticed some changes;

Normally if i was with someone else who actually works with her (i am friends with a couple of her managers) she would almost seem that she doesnt know me, or doesnt want to talk at all, and try to escape the situation or get me to leave it.

This has totally stopped as i was with one of her bosses the other day and she came into the office (as she does when her shift is over, hand in money etc) and we seemed to get along, almost kind of flirting. ie she made a joke about my name as we were referring to my bad score in the footy tipping, also she was checking the chart and i went to look at it as well and without realising i stood directly close to her, she didnt move at all, even prolonged the conversati0n by pointing out a couple of her good scores throughout the year.

Anyway there have been a few times where ive had the chance to walk her to where she is picked up from work, and it sometimes seems like she is moving close to me.

The main one that makes me think was the last time we spoke, she was excited about going somewhere on the weekend and kept closing in towards me to the point where i took slight steps away. This happened as we were walking, also as we stood.

Ive actually been meaning to ask her out but the opportunity for a natural suggestion hasnt been there so ive avoided it, more than likely acting apprehensive.

It does seem like we are kind of just friends but there have been times where i feel like theres some tension in the air. Like if we are walking towards each other we smile before we are within talking distance.

What would you do?

P.S. I will be seeing her again in like 2 days.

P.P.S. I cant believe a forum like this actually exists :cheer:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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escobar04

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putting up girl problems on the internet is pretty low man. just kidding

anyways, as far as ur newbie story goes, U just need to take action and quit double guessing

just go with the plan of having her as a date

so i'l highly advise hitting the "Tips" forum and take notes

p.s. welcome to the club!
 

JonJack

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Go for it man. It's easier when you do it earlier. If you would to wait too long, the two of you could become too comfortable with what's been going on and trying to bring things to the next level could seem awkward and weird. Plus if you would to wait too long before going for it and she rejects you, it'll be harder for you to get over it. So go for it early.
 

brenbaus

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^^^^^These guys know what they are talking about, I had to learn the hard way, so take it from someone who had to learn the hard way: Get her number, ask her out on a date, get her back to your house, and see where it goes from there. As for me, I am stuck in the friend zone.......
 

spider_007

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I've noticed this was your first post, may I be so bold as to suggest that you skim throu the things on this page. http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/ and also this page http://www.sosuave.com/halloffame/default.htm Just a thought;) It might save you some trouble down the road.

As for your lady friend, I'm not quiet sure she wan'ts you "romanticley". I mean, her standing close to you dosen't suggest anything other then; that she is comforatable around you..... I supose you can try it out and ask her out, but it might get kinda wierd after....
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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