When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
it depends man, some *****es say that to me but its just a flirtatious bull****. But then it could be true and shes just insecure about coming otu with it seriouslyOriginally posted by mazda
a girl says to me in a sarcastic but funny reply on an email "Yeh Mazda I'm strangely attractive to you, I want to be with you" is that a green light to go for her
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Determing Interest Level
STEP 1:
Ask her out on a romantic type date. I suggest dinner, lunch, or something more cheaper like coffee or ice cream. Whatever you choose, just make sure she knows it's a REAL DATE. You can do some fun activity after that, but DO NOT mention this to her when asking her out. You want to find out if she is interested in you on a romantic level, not a friend/buddy level.
STEP 2:
Wait for her answer. If she says yes or gives a counter-offer, then set the time and leave it at that.
If she answers anything but yes or a counter-offer, then go to STEP 3.
NOTE: "Maybe some other time" without mentioning a specific day is not a counter-offer.
STEP 3:
Put yourself in her shoes and ask yourself this:
If you were interested in a woman and she asked you out on a date, what would your response be?
I don't know about you, but I'd alter any unimportant plans to spend time with her. Even if I couldn't alter my plans, I'd sure as hell let her know that I was interested and make a counter-offer.
Now if you had no interest in a woman and she asked you out on a date, what would your response be?
If any of you has ever had a woman that you weren't interested in chase after you, then this should be a no brainer. When I get asked out by a woman that I'm not interested in, I'll give her an excuse after excuse why I can't make it. I'll do this until she gets the hint that I'm just not interested.
STEP 4:
Compare her response to what you answered in STEP 3 and see what category her response falls into. This is the answer to her true Interest Level.